back to indexJohn Clarke: The Art of Fighting and the Pursuit of Excellence | Lex Fridman Podcast #143
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The following is a conversation with John Clark.
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He's a friend, a Brazilian jiu jitsu black belt,
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former MMA fighter, and at least in my opinion,
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one of the great UFC corner man coaches to listen to.
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And also, he's my current jiu jitsu coach
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at Broadway Jiu Jitsu in South Boston.
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He was once, for a time, a philosophy major in college,
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and is now, I would say, a kind of practicing philosopher,
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opinionated, brilliant,
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and someone I always enjoy talking to even when,
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especially when, we disagree, which we do often.
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He's definitely someone I can see talking to
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many times on this podcast.
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In fact, he hosts a new podcast of his own
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called Please Allow Me.
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As a side note, let me say that martial arts,
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especially jiu jitsu and judo,
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have been a big part of my growth as a human being.
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So I think I will talk to a few martial artists
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on occasion on this podcast.
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I hope that is of interest to you.
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I won't talk to people who are simply great fighters
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or great athletes, but people who have a philosophy
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that I find to be interesting and worth exploring,
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even if I disagree with parts or most of it.
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I like alternating between historians
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and computer scientists, fighters and biologists,
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and between totally different worldviews and personalities,
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like Elon Musk and Michael Malice.
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This world, to me, is fascinating
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because of the diversity of weirdness
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that is human civilization.
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I love the weird and the brilliant,
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and hope you join me on the journey of exploring both.
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If you don't like an episode, skip it.
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For an OCD person like myself,
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sometimes not listening to a podcast episode
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is an act of courage.
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It's like not finishing a book even though you're 80% done.
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Listen to ones you like, and don't listen
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to the ones you don't like.
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And now, here's my conversation with John Clark.
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You ready for this?
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I've been ready for this my whole life.
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All right, I was thinking of doing a Kerouac style road trip
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across the United States,
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after this whole COVID thing lifts.
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You ever take a trip like that?
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I've done a handful of long distance driving trips
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up and down the East Coast, but also from the West Coast
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back to the East Coast, and then returning to California.
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So I've definitely done my fair share
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of driving in this country.
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Do you have the longing for the great American road trip?
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I think there are so many things
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that I've been lucky enough to see in the world
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that I now, at this point in my life, realize
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there are tons of things that I need to see here
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in this country, and a road trip could potentially
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be the best way to see them.
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I think to do it effectively, you need an amount of time
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where you can be as leisurely as possible.
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There's no deadline, and there's no,
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I've gotta make it from Chicago to St. Louis by sundown
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to get to this place at this time.
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I think you really need to be able to take your time
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and kind of let the road take you where you need to go.
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It feels like you need a mission though, ultimately.
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There's a reason you need to be in San Francisco.
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That's like the Kerouac thing.
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You have to meet somebody somewhere kind of loosely
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in a few weeks, and then it's the,
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as you struggle on towards that mission,
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you meet weird characters that get in your way,
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but ultimately sort of create an experience.
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I think having a loose deadline is good,
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but that's a beginning and an end point,
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and what I mean is I don't wanna have to be,
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all right, we're leaving, say, Boston on Sunday night.
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Let's get to New York by Monday morning,
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and then from New York, we're gonna go to Philly,
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and we've gotta be in Philly at four.
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A vague beginning and end is fine,
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but I think having very strict guidelines in between
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will rob you of certain experiences along the way.
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If you have a timeframe to get from Philly to Indianapolis
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and some awesome shit starts to happen in Philly,
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do you really wanna have to cut it short
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because you gotta be in Indianapolis by sunup?
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Why do you have to be anywhere by any time
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for any reason, really?
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Plans change all the time, exactly,
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but if we're talking about having a mission
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or the type of road trip,
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I just think it would be best to have it
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as loose and flexible as possible.
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You gotta make hard deadlines and then break them.
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Totally change the plans.
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Disappoint people, break promises.
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That's the way of life.
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Somebody's waiting for you in St. Louis,
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and all of a sudden, you fell in love
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with a biker in New York.
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I don't know what you're up to.
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I can appreciate that, but on a trip like that,
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I feel like a trip with deadlines
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is for a different point in your life,
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and at this point in my life,
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I don't want any of the deadlines
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because it's not about meeting someone
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and disappointing them in St. Louis.
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It's about me not disappointing myself.
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You wanna have enough time in what you're doing
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to make sure that you get the full breadth
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of every experience that you encounter.
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How would you fully experience a place?
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I don't think I've actually fully experienced Boston.
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If you were showing up to a city for a week
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on this road trip, what would you do?
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So I'm gonna answer that in two parts.
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A few years ago, I had an opportunity to move out of Boston,
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and the thing that kept me here, no question about it,
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was the fact that I felt like I had a contract
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with my students, and I did not.
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I felt like a great many of them took a leap of faith
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by joining my gym and asking me to teach them what I know,
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and when I had an opportunity to leave Boston,
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I thought of those people,
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and I thought, I wanna fulfill my obligation to them.
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So because I made a decision to stay here,
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I then that summer made a decision
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to endear myself to the city of Boston,
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and I tried to find lots and lots
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of different things to do.
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I can tell you that the coolest thing
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that I found to do in this city is the MFA,
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where they have on Friday nights,
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they'll have different exhibits and stuff,
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and they'll have little beer carts and food tents,
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and you can go do a painting class off on the side.
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Very cool night of things to do.
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But in general, whenever I'm in a new city,
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I try not to pay attention to Google,
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and I try not to do anything that I find on a travel site.
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The best thing to do is to walk out of your hotel
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or wherever it is you're staying
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and find the most normal looking bar,
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have a drink, and talk to a bartender.
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So the people, the people.
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The people, and then you can experience that town
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the way that they experience it.
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Even in a city where there are tons of tourist attractions,
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locals probably visit the same tourist attractions
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when they have visitors come from out of town,
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you wanna see how they view those places
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and how they visit them.
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And you wanna go to eat where they're going to eat.
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Like, you're gonna, for the most part,
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the North End is not a place where I would take someone
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and say, hey, this is Boston's,
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the pinnacle of Boston dining,
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because it's very touristy.
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There are a handful of really good restaurants there,
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but I wanna know where the,
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I wanna go to Bogie's Place.
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I wanna know the down low spots where.
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The hell's Bogie's Place?
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It's like a little steakhouse in the back of J.M. Curly's.
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It's like a shitty bar?
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No, it's just a bar with like bar food.
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But I think that like.
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It is in Boston, yeah.
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It's not South Boston?
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No, it's in, it's in the downtown area.
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Like, I don't know what the neighborhoods
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are called here, honestly,
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because they have an area called Downtown Boston,
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and I don't even know what the hell that means.
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And they used to have the Financial District.
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Cause I've heard about the Southie.
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Southie is South Boston.
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But is there a difference between South Boston and Southie?
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No, it's the same thing.
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No, but like, you know, the mythical Southie.
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I think the mythical Southie
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is something that's long gone now.
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And the term now actually is Sobo.
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It's changed, what, who took over what?
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What's the, you know, the good will hunting personality.
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That's Southie, isn't it?
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Strong accent, those bad ass dudes.
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I came here right at the end of like,
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what was South Boston.
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So when I got, and my gym is in South Boston,
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the neighborhood was just starting to change.
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as gentrification happened
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and they started building more luxury condominiums,
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they were buying all these old businesses out,
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all the mom and pop businesses.
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And I think that kind of changed
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the makeup of the community.
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And it wasn't only because there was an influx
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of new young people with disposable income,
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it's because there's an exodus of the older people
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who kind of grew up and raised their families there
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because they were being offered
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humongous sums of money for their homes
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that they had bought like in the late 70s and early 80s
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so that they could develop those areas.
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So you have a combination of the influx of new people
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and the exodus of the old,
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and now you just got this totally new neighborhood
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What do you love about Boston?
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Is there a love still for Boston?
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You certainly have the love of the thing
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that's gone as well.
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Yeah, I think, I don't wanna pinpoint pin this on Boston
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because it's happening in all great cities.
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As these areas become gentrified,
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what's happening is the personality
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and the character of the neighborhood
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is just being run out.
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And I have nothing against people coming in
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and making money and things like that.
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But when you do it at the expense of the culture,
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the character and the personality of the neighborhood,
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I mean, you're kind of standing on the shoulders of giants.
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These are the people that came here
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and built these areas up.
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It happens here in Boston,
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it happens in all over New York,
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happens on the West Coast.
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So what I love about Boston is not nearly as romantic
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as what it might've been 15 years ago
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and what I used to love about New York.
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What I love about Boston is that it's walkable.
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The food scene is on the rise here.
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But I think you're hard pressed to find the charm
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that people think of when they think of old Boston
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and old New England city.
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So yeah, I see it differently.
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People sometimes criticize like MIT
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like for the thing that it is now.
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But I think it is always like that.
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I tend to prefer to carry the flame of the greatness,
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the greatest moments of its history
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and like sort of enjoy the echoes of that
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in the halls of MIT.
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In the same way in Boston, you think about the history
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and that history lives on in the few individuals.
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Like you can't just look around what Boston is now
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and be like, what has Boston become?
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I think it was always carried by a minority of individuals.
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I think we kind of look back in history
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and think like times were greater
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in a certain kind of dimension back then.
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But that's because we remember,
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this is a ridiculous non data driven assertion of mine,
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is to remember just the brightest stars of that history.
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And so we romanticize it.
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But I think if you look around now,
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those special people are still living in Boston
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for which Boston will be remembered as a great city
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I think you're probably right, but isn't there some sort
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of theory about the point that there's like a certain age
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in your life where things resonate differently to you?
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Like, I think they've done studies
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where most people stop searching for new music
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Most dads you see like wearing super old clothes,
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like that's the style of the time period
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of the last great part of their life.
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So like there's an evolution in people
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and it could also be the memories of where they live.
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And when I was 17, of course my neighborhood
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was the best then because I was having the most fun.
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And we always kind of look at things through that tint,
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I think, and you're right.
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And I don't think there's anything wrong
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with the way cities are evolving now.
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It's just not, I prefer the time of like a mom and pop store,
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not a fabricated like gastropub that could just be like
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on a four lane super highway
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on your way out of Epcot Center.
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And it's actually owned by like some conglomerate.
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But there's still the special places.
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Like I, this takes us back to the road trip
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is maybe I tend to romanticize the experiences
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of like the diners in the middle of nowhere.
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What would you say makes for like,
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it feels like life is made up of these experiences
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that maybe on paper seem mundane,
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but are actually somehow give you a chance
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to pause and reflect on life
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with like a certain kind of people,
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whether like really close friends or complete strangers,
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maybe alcohol is involved in the middle of nowhere.
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It seems like a road trip facilitates that
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if you allow it to.
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Like what do you think makes for those kinds of experience?
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I think in the context of a road trip,
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I think it's like hyper localization.
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And I think it is those experiences along the way
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with people and the people that you're with
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will color the experiences differently
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depending on the person.
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The road trip you took was with somebody else or alone?
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So I've driven up and down the East Coast several times.
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When I drove from LA to New York,
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my friend was on the run from the cops.
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So we were trying to get out of.
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Yeah, traffic tickets.
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We were trying to get out of LA
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because he was going to have to go away for a little while.
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So we drove from LA and we just,
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we were young kids, we had no idea what we were doing,
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and we drove East.
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And then we had an unbelievable trip,
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mostly because we didn't really have a destination,
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we didn't really have a timeframe, thank goodness,
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because he got arrested again in Pennsylvania.
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So we got kind of stuck there.
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And then we drove back to LA
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when he got out in Pennsylvania.
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But all the stops along the way
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were kind of like weird things,
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like you have no money, right?
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So you're finding that like a little diamond
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in the rough place to eat,
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the diner you talk about, like that place.
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I once was in, where was I?
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I think I was in Buenos Aires.
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And the guy that I was with, he said,
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I know this quaint little spot around the corner.
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And I was young, I was like 25.
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And I thought the coolest thing in the world would be
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to be such a citizen of the world
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that you know these quaint little spots around the corner
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in like all these great cities.
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Like I know where to get this great chicken sandwich
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I know where to get this great meal in Costa Rica.
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I know where to get this super local egg in another country.
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And I just thought that that was really cool,
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the ability to do that anywhere in the world.
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Did you get closer with that guy through the trip?
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I found that like, so I took a trip across the United States
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with a guy friend of mine.
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We had different goals.
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I was searching for meaning in life
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and he was searching for,
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what's the politically correct way of phrasing it,
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but just basically trying to sleep
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with every kind of woman that this world has to offer.
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What's the difference between those two things?
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Well, I guess he was searching
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for the different kinds of meanings.
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Yeah, I mean, I still think that you can't find meaning
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between a woman's legs, I suppose.
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Have you tried all of them?
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But there was a tension there.
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We grew closer with those experiences,
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but we've gotten in fights.
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There was a lot of like literal almost fights
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and then we were close and there was like silences,
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but then we were like brothers
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and this whole weird journey of friendship that we went on.
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I think anytime you spend that much time
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in like a small space with another person,
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you're gonna have the different parts
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of the relationship will manifest themselves.
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You'll have the periods of closeness.
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You'll have the periods of vulnerability
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where it's like maybe you're driving through Denver
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and it's three in the morning
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and you talk about something
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you might not have otherwise talked about.
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You'll have the periods
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where you don't wanna see that motherfucker ever again.
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He didn't, and depending could be because of anything.
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But the guy that I drove twice with,
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we're still in contact, we're still buddies.
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We have very different goals also,
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but at that point in our lives,
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we never even contemplated the meaning of life.
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We were about probably more to the point
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of the friend that you drove with.
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We were more about racking up experiences,
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whatever they were.
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I wanna be able to retell this.
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Yeah, I wanna be able to retell this
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and it's gotta sound cool.
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Like I don't wanna retell a story about,
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yeah and then we drove through Alabama
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and they've got a lovely library
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and I checked out this book
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and I'm not interested in retelling that.
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Do you remember any, this is a kid's show,
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do you remember any stories that the kids would enjoy
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from those times that were profound in some kind of way?
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There were some impactful moments
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on the beginning of our road trip where we had no money
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and as a couple of kids who knew nothing,
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we literally had to, we stopped in Vegas
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and we went to Circus Circus.
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At the time they had $3 blackjack
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and we had like 12 bucks
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and my buddy was a kind of a degenerate gambler
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so he knew what was up.
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I was just like kind of stuffing chips in my pockets,
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making sure we could pay for the gas.
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And just being at a point which is like a starting line
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and like we drove from LA to Vegas,
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which is only about four hours
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and being at the starting line and realizing like,
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we may not even like get off the starting line here.
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And if we don't, what are we doing?
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We're gonna be two guys stuck in Vegas.
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We can't go West because you're gonna get pinched.
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We have no money to go East.
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What the hell are we gonna do?
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Are we gonna wind up in Vegas?
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So, you know, that was kind of a profound thing
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where you just, it's a turning,
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it potentially could have been a turning point in our lives
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had we not made enough money to continue going East.
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That's the beautiful thing about road trips
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when you're broke is like,
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in retrospect, everything turned out fine,
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but you're facing the complete darkness,
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the uncertainty of the possibilities laid before you.
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And like, I don't know if you were confident at that time,
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but like, I was really full of self doubt.
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Like just, all I could see is all the trajectories
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where you just screw up your life.
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Like, what am I doing with my life?
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I'm a failure, like all these dreams I've had,
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I've never realized I'm a complete piece of shit.
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All those kinds of things.
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I had no concept of consequence.
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I probably had toxoplasmosis.
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I had literally no concept of consequence.
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Immediate gratification was all I cared about.
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Oh, so existentialist.
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Yeah, it did not even enter my mind in my like early 20s
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that anything that I was doing at that point
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could reverberate for the rest of my life.
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I think part of me didn't even think I'd make it this far.
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And so I was not interested in like the long play.
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I remember thinking like,
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why should I be acting now in a way
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that might impact a point in my life I never reach?
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And yet now you are a man who searches for meaning in life,
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at least I would say to put another way,
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you think deeply about this world
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and in a philosophical context
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while also appreciating the violence
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of hurting other friends of yours, right?
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On a regular basis.
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So why do you think, I mean,
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maybe there's a broader question there,
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but it calls a personal question.
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It seems that people who fight for prolonged periods of time,
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like Jiu Jitsu people and mixed martial arts people,
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even military folks become over time philosophers.
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Is that, is there a parallel between fighting and violence
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and the philosophical depth with which you now have arrived
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from the starting point of being the full existentialist
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of like just living in the moment
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to like being introspective human now?
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I would say to that being a soldier
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or a warrior hundreds of years ago
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is probably what started the marriage
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between martial arts and philosophy.
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If you're constantly under someone else's charge
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and you're told to go out and walk in a line
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and overtake some Germanic tribe somewhere
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and that happens all the time, your job is being a soldier.
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On any given day, you might not come home.
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So I think that you have to start your day
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by thinking deeply about how you've lived to that point
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and the people that are living in and around you
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and how you've treated them.
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And I think that probably is what started the marriage
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of being kind of like a philosophical martial artist.
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You've got to really like on a daily basis,
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take stock of what's going on around you and inside you
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because we all suffer with this kind of idea.
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If today's my last day, did I do it right?
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And we don't really do it so much nowadays
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because we're so comfortable,
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but if we were being marched out to war every day,
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I think you'd see people live a little bit differently.
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And you treat the people around you
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a little bit differently.
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Do you think there's echoes of that
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in just even the sport of like grappling and Jiu Jitsu
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where you're facing your own mortality?
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We don't really think of it that way, but.
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To be honest, I think that a lot of people
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that train in a martial art in contemporary society,
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I don't consider them all martial artists.
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I think just because you train in martial art
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does not mean you're a martial artist.
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There are so many people that use martial arts
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as a form of exercise and like this little piece
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They use martial arts as a tagline in their Instagram bio.
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And it's really a form of exercise.
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It's something they do, it's not something they are.
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And I think there's a big difference there.
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There's a bunch of stuff mixed up in there
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because the Instagram thing is something you do for,
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it's also, it could be something you are for display
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versus who you are in the private moments
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of searching and thinking and struggling
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and all that kind of stuff.
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Instagram is a surface layer
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that much of modern society operates in,
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which is really problematic because there's that gap
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between the person you show to the world
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and the person you are in private life.
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And if you make majority of your project
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of the human project of your sort of few years
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on this earth, the optimization
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of the public Instagram profile,
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then you never develop this private person.
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But it does seem that if you do jiu jitsu long enough,
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it's very difficult not to fall into like,
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this has become a personal journey,
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an intellectual journey.
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Because like, if you get your ass kicked thousands of times,
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there's a certain point to where that,
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maybe it's like a defense mechanism,
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but that turns into some kind
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of deeply profound introspective experience
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versus like exercise.
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Yeah, so let me go back first
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and address the Instagram point,
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which I think there's a difference
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between people whose Instagram is intrinsically tied
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to their profession and they have
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to put a specific profile out there.
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And I think in general,
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people who truthfully their business is tied
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to their Instagram profile, I wanna exclude them.
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I think that most people,
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Instagram is how they want to be seen.
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And that's not always congruent with who you are,
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but I think there is a level of dishonesty there.
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Like this is how I want people to see me.
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I'm gonna put all this stuff in my Instagram bio,
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but that's really not me.
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And when you do that,
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I think it's a little disingenuous and you're right.
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There's not, you're never really gonna marry
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those two things together and it gets tough.
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Let me, sorry to interrupt,
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let me push back on something.
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This is a good time to address the many flaws
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of the great and powerful John Clark.
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Okay, let's go there.
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Cause it's interesting.
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You strive so hard for excellence in your life
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and for extreme competence that you are visibly
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and physically off put by people
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who have not achieved competence.
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Do you think we should be nicer to the people who are,
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like you mentioned, a person who first picks up an art,
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picks up, becomes vegan, starts doing CrossFit,
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start doing Jiu Jitsu for the first time
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and create that as their,
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they're struggling through this like, who am I?
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And they're really overly proud and it's kind of ridiculous.
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And you and your wise chair have seen many battles.
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Yeah, that you see the ridiculousness of that.
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I tend to, I'm learning to give those folks,
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not to mock them and to sort of give them a chance
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to do their ridiculousness because I think I was that too.
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Let me first clarify.
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I wanna be clear about what you mean
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when you say a level of competence.
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Now I've never won a world championship.
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I've never, you know, there are plenty of things in my life
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where I've not achieved what most people would consider
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to be the penultimate level of success.
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That's accomplishments.
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It's accomplishments, it's ribbons, it's things like that.
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And it's not that those things don't mean anything to me.
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And the fact that I haven't in some arenas
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is something that I wanna change,
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which is, we can talk about that in a second.
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But I think that there's a difference
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between the very eager noob of whatever it is they're doing
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who does the thing so that they can signal
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they do the thing.
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That's a person I have less respect for.
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So we know each other primarily through jujitsu.
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Look at a jujitsu tournament.
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There's this idea that people espouse online.
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I respect anyone with the guts to get on the mat
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and put it on the line and sign up for a tournament.
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That is the biggest load of shit I have ever heard.
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Do you know how easy it is for you
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to put your name on something
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and pay the registration fee and walk in there?
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That's not the hard part.
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That's the easiest part.
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I don't care if you lose your first match,
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but I respect the person who signs up for the tournament,
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registers for the tournament, goes on a diet,
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loses weight the right way, trains their ass off,
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and does the things properly and then goes on the mat.
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The person who simply signs their name
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on the registration form and jumps on the mat,
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if they haven't done these other things,
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they actually have nothing to lose.
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Because what they've done is they've stepped onto the mat,
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in the ring, in the cage with a bucket full of excuses.
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Sure you signed up, but you're not really vulnerable
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because you didn't run, you didn't do this,
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you didn't do all the things you're supposed to do.
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The person who eliminates every possible excuse
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and then steps on the mat
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and gets their ass kicked in the first round,
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I have so much more respect for that person
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than the person who does nothing
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and maybe on natural ability wins a couple of matches
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and then writes on Facebook
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on how I lost to the eventual champion.
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That's worth zero, that's worth zero.
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And in that process, what did you learn about yourself?
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You learned about yourself
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that you've got a natural level of aptitude
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for whatever this activity is that you're doing,
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but you didn't actually learn how to maximize it
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through training and through dedication
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and through all these other things.
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I'm an incredibly interested, novice musician.
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I like to play bass, but I don't put that on anything.
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And I stink at it.
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I would really love to be sick at it.
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I'm currently not, but I'm not running around,
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talking about entering, any of those other things.
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I do it, it's for myself
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and I wanna reach a level of competence in that.
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So the person that you have respect for
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is a person who takes it fully seriously,
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takes the effort fully seriously.
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So for bass, that would be that you agree with yourself
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that you're going to perform live
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and just in your own private moments, your private thoughts,
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you're not going to give yourself an excuse out,
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like, I'm just gonna have fun.
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This is a nice experience.
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You're going to think I'm going to try
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to be the best possible bass player
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given everything that's going on in my life,
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but I'm going to do my, like actually,
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and put it all on the line.
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And if I fail, that's not because I didn't try,
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it's because I'm a failure.
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And then sit in that sick feeling of like, I'm a failure.
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But isn't that an important thing to know?
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But there's a, that's like the best thing it could be,
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but sometimes it's fun to lose yourself
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in the bragging, in the lesser ways of life.
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And I think I'm careful not to,
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because too many people in my life,
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when I brought them with like a little candle
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of a fire of a dream, they would just go like,
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they would just blow that fire out,
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that they would dismiss me.
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Cause they see like, I would say,
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I've said a lot of ridiculous stuff,
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but I've always dreamed about like putting,
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I always dreamed of having this world full of robots.
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And every time I would bring these ideas up,
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they'll be shut down by the different people,
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by my parents, by, then you need to first get an education.
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You need to succeed in these dimensions.
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In order to do all these things,
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you have to get good grades.
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You have to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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Like there's all this stuff that it's indirect
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or direct ways of blowing out that little ridiculous dream
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And it's like, I remember sort of bringing up,
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I don't know, things like becoming a state champion
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in wrestling, right?
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It's a weird dance because of course the coaches will tell,
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they'll kind of dismiss that.
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It's like, okay, okay.
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But at the same time, it feels like in those early days,
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you have to preserve that little fire.
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Johnny Ive, I don't know if you know who that is,
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is a designer at Apple.
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He was a chief designer.
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He's behind most of the iPhone, all that stuff.
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And he always talked about that he wouldn't bring his ideas
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to Steve Jobs until they were matured
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because he would always shit on them.
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He wanted them to as little babies live for a little bit
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before they get completely shut down.
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And I always think about that when I see a beginner
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sort of bragging on Instagram, you have to be careful.
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Let them play with that little dream.
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Are you playing with a little dream that you're nurturing
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and you're trying to take that little flame
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and you're trying to create a roaring blaze with it?
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Or are you playing with the idea of it
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and behind that there's no substance?
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It's hard to know the difference.
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That's what I struggle with.
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I don't think it necessarily is.
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Certainly you're wrong.
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And when I say Instagram,
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I don't wanna impugn a bunch of strangers,
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but I have a gym with a lot of members.
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And I can tell you that the number of years
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I've been in the gym,
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when someone comes to me and says, this is my goal,
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I don't tell them yes or no in general, but I know.
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I can tell by the way they say it to me,
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I can thin slice it.
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I've seen the look on people's faces.
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And when people start to say they wanna do X, Y, and Z,
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I know right off the bat,
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this person's either gonna put an effort in
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or they're not going to put an effort in.
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So to me, it's about the effort behind that.
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If you're busting your ass and you're a new at something
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and you're brand new, but you're working really hard
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and you have a series of like moderate successes in that,
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like that's the guy I wanna champion
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because that persistence and that grit over time,
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those successes will no longer be moderate.
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But the person who's having moderate success
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by doing nothing, chances are they'll never learn
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to put that work in and the successes will never grow.
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You have an admiration for Mike Tyson.
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I'm just gonna let that sit for a brief moment.
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I think there's a combination of factors.
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One is like the timeliness of his career
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and like the age I was when he like came to prominence,
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the raw, brutal violence
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and the raw, brutal honesty when he speaks.
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I think it's easy for people to hear him or see his life
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and cast him aside as some simianesque,
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like just cretin scourge on society.
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But when you hear him speak,
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like this is not a guy who's unintelligent.
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This is a guy who knows himself better
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than probably most of us know ourselves.
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It's disarming and that's a humongous part
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of my admiration for him.
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Who is Mike Tyson?
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Because it feels like there's similarities
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between him and you.
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It feels like there's a violent person in there,
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but also a really kind person.
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And they're all like living together in a little house.
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And you're the same.
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There's a thoughtful person,
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but there's also a scary, violent person.
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And they're like having a picnic.
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They're having a picnic.
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I think there are dialectical tensions in everyone,
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these like opposing forces
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that are constantly pulling at you
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and at different points in your life,
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like it's sliding scale.
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And I think that certainly when I was a younger person,
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that there was a lot more manifestation of the violence
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and a lot less of the kindness.
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People who were not as close to me
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probably saw more of the violent side
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and only the very close people to me saw like
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what would pass for the kind side.
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And now that's sliding in the other direction.
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And I worry actually sometimes that
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there could be a situation where I need
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that old version of me
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and he's getting further and further away
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and I can't call him up if I need him.
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And that concerns me to a certain degree.
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The sad aging warrior seeing his greater self fade away.
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But you still compete.
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Does that person return?
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It seems like for Mike Tyson,
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that person returned at the prospect of competition.
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It returns, but I've learned better
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how to manifest it in competition
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in terms of like the effects
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that that type of emotion has on you physically
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in the middle of a competition.
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So I've better learned how to utilize that energy.
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But I think another side effect of this
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is like having a gym where you're a bigger guy
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and you're the head instructor,
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you can't be as mean and violent as you once were
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because you're also not trying to run a business.
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And you spend so many years trying not to be mean
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and to soften your technique a little bit
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that that all of a sudden just becomes who you are.
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And I don't necessarily like that.
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So I've been trying to reclaim that a little bit
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on the mat, but I think in competition,
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there has to be an athlete really wants to score the points.
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A fighter really wants to incapacitate you
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and put you in a position where they can
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do their own bidding.
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And the result in a jujitsu match
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might just still be two points,
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but the motivations are very, very different.
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What do you make of Tyson on Joe Rogan
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saying that he was aroused by violence?
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Do you think that's insane?
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Do you think that's deeply honest for him?
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And do you think that rings true for many of us,
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others who practices in different degrees?
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I can't speak for a lot of people.
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And I think that it was a brutally honest statement by him.
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And I think it's something that even if a lot of people
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feel it, they're not that comfortable
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admitting it or saying it.
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But I think there's great joy
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in landing a flush right hand on someone's jaw
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and then watching them crumble.
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You don't even feel it.
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You ever played baseball as a kid?
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You can hit a base hit off the end of the bat
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and it will sting your hands
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because of the way that you hit it.
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You can hit a home run and you won't feel anything.
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It just feels so good in your hands.
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And that's, I think, one of the joys of physical contact.
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When you do it the right way,
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and that goes for all physical contact.
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When you do it the right way,
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the physical pleasure you can derive from it
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and the mental pleasure, it's unparalleled.
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See, but that's different.
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Let me draw a distinction.
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I've had the fortune of being a wrestler.
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And I would draw a distinction
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between a very well executed in competition,
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double leg, single leg take down or a pin.
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There's some, as an OCD person,
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there's something so comforting
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about a well executed pin
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because it's like two seconds
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and it's just like everything is flush and nice.
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And like, it's all clean.
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I mean, okay, this OCD person who likes to align show,
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it's just beautiful.
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Okay, that's good technique.
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And wrestling also provides you,
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maybe more than other sports,
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the feeling of dominating another human.
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Of breaking, no, not just of them being very cocky
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and very powerful,
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you feel this power of another human being
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and then you breaking them.
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And like, I'm not as honest as Mike Tyson.
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But that, I don't think I've ever sort of looked in the mirror
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and said like, that that was, I enjoyed that aspect of it.
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But it certainly seems like you chase that.
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So when I was a wrestler in high school,
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I lost so many matches because of over aggressiveness.
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Like, I would pick the top position and let you stand
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just so that I could do a mat return.
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And I wasn't trying to return you to the mat.
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I was actually trying to like drive you through the mat
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and through the ground.
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Like I took, like, it gave me joy to do that.
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Like, it wasn't like I was trying to, you know,
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just return you to the mat so that I could pin you.
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That what you just talked about,
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like the dominating another person,
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I used to look at that as you've got someone
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who in theory is equally trained
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and equally skilled as you are.
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And you're absolutely out there totally dominating them.
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There's joy in that.
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You could get in an MMA fight
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and you could take someone down and you could mount them.
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And all that feels great.
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But when you start raining down the punches
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on their face from mount and like dropping elbows and stuff,
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like there's another level of satisfaction there.
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And it's tough to describe.
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And I don't think that everyone is made for it.
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When I was, I think when I was a senior in high school,
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my wrestling coach said, look,
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you've got to stop with all this crazy aggressive wrestling.
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Like they tried to turn me into a technician
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and it did work to a degree.
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And it was a humongous shift for me in terms of success,
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but it wasn't the same level of enjoyment out of it.
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Like, I mean, I got disqualified from New England
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because my coach said cross face and I cross face
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and he said harder.
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And I basically wound up and blasted a kid in the face
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and his nose got busted everywhere.
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But I didn't think not to do it because that felt good.
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It felt good to cross face him like that.
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I was a lot of like.
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That's a weird American warrior ethos that I've picked up,
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but I also have in me the Russian, the Setyaev brothers
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that don't see it, don't see it as that.
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They don't get draw,
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they think that there is a tension between the art
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of the martial art and the violence of the martial art.
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I agree with that.
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It's a poetic way I could put it,
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but they're not so fascinated with this Dan Gable
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dominating another human.
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They think of the effortlessness of the technique
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and your mastery of the art is exhibited
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in its effortlessness,
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how much you lose yourself in the moment and the timing,
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that just the beauty of a timing.
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Like there's much more, like one example in judo,
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but also in wrestling, you can look at the foot sweep.
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Wrestlers in America and even judo players in America
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and much of the world don't admire the beauty
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of the foot sweep, but a well timed foot sweep,
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which is a way to sort of off balance
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to find the right timing to just effortlessly
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change the table, turn the tables of,
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I mean, dominate your opponent is seen as the highest form
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of mastery in Russian wrestling.
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In the case of judo, it's in Japanese judo.
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I'm not sure what that tension is about.
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I think it actually takes me back to,
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I don't know if you listened to Dan Carlin,
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Hardcore History and Genghis Khan, if you've ever.
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I've read a great, great book.
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I'm still trying to adjust.
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Most of my life said Genghis Khan,
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but the right pronunciation is actually Genghis Khan.
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There's a tension there.
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We kind of think, I don't know we,
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I kind of thought as Genghis Khan is a ultra violent,
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a leader of ultra violent men, but another view,
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another way to see them is the people who warriors
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that valued extreme competence and mastery of the art
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of fighting with weapons, with bows,
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with the horse riding, all that kind of stuff.
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And I'm not sure exactly where to place them
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on my sort of thinking about violence in our human history.
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I think in the context of like combat sports,
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I think there's a difference between an athlete
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winning a contest under a certain set of rules
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and a fighter winning a fight under those exact same rules.
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There's a different approach to it.
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And I don't think one is any better than the other.
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Like in MMA, I think a great example would be
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George St. Pierre.
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George St. Pierre is a tremendous athlete
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and he considers himself to be a martial artist first.
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He's trying to win an athletic competition.
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Like Nick Diaz is trying to bust your ass, right?
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There's a different approach to it.
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And yes, they've had different results
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at the highest level of competition,
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but it's difficult to attribute the difference in results
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just to their approach to the sport
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because they're different human beings
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with different abilities and different physical attributes.
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The PsyTF brothers have that luxury of being able
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to talk about the beauty of a perfectly timed slide by.
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There are other wrestlers that will never be able
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to pull that off and therefore they have to pursue
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other ways to defeat someone.
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And maybe it is the Dan Gable breaking a man's spirit
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by outworking him type thing,
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which is beautiful in its own way.
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But we tend to self select the ways in which
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we're able to be successful
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and then kind of take a deep dive into that.
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What do you think is more beautiful?
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Brute force or effortless execution
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of a technique that dominates another human?
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I think it's a subjective thing
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based on what skills you perceive yourself to have.
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I'm never, I've never been a slick, super athletic,
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dexterous competitor in anything.
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And I've always been more of an,
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I've gotta outwork you, I've gotta out grind you,
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I gotta out mean you.
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And so because I've lived that,
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I tend to see the beauty in that more
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because I have a perceptual awareness
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that I don't have for the people who have the luxury
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of being very slick and athletic
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and using beautiful technique.
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Now that said, there's a phenomenal little video
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the other day I sent to a friend of a compilation
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of foot sweeps by Leota Machida in MMA.
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And they're so beautiful and they're so awesome.
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And it's not that I don't have an appreciation for those,
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but I can't emulate those because I lack
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the physical ability to do that.
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Whereas I at least have a chance to emulate
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some of the people who do it through grit
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and through outworking people.
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But I would love to return to Genghis Khan
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and get your thoughts about,
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like I have so many mixed feelings
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about whether he is evil or not,
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whether the violence that he brought to the world
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had ultimately, the fact that it had maybe
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kind of like Dan Carlin describes,
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cleanse the landscape.
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It's like a reset for the world through violence
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had ultimately a progressive effect on human civilization,
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even though in the short term it led to massive,
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you could say suffering.
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I don't know what to make of that, man.
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What are your thoughts on Genghis Khan?
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I think it's always difficult to look at a historical figure
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and their actions of their time through a modern day lens
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because it's easy for us to kind of impugn
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their achievements and the things that they did
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and say, oh, well, what he did was wrong.
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Well, of course that can be true,
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but a lot of times we don't actually have
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any real good context or concept
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of the times they were living in
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and what really was deemed wrong and what really wasn't.
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We're looking at it through a very cushy modern lens.
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That being said, from what I've read about Genghis Khan,
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yeah, he was a violent dude,
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but also he gave you an option.
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When he got to a village, he said,
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look, you have a choice,
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you can come with us or you can run.
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And he gave them an option to join his legion of fighters
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who he took very good care of.
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He was the first military leader
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to pay his soldiers families when they died.
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And he did that based on the booty that they got
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when they raided a village.
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He took that money, he took his share
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and they divided that up amongst the soldiers
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and then the soldiers families.
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I think he also is credited with first horseback mail routes
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or something like that, right?
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Isn't he the godfather of the modern postal system?
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There's something like that.
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Yeah, he's the Bernie Sanders of the Mongol Empire.
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I do think the offering of surrender is an interesting one
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because it's interesting as a thought experiment,
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whether you would sacrifice your way of,
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like the pride of nations or the nationalism,
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pride of your country,
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whether you're willing to give that up to survive.
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It depends on who depends on you.
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If you have a family and young kids and stuff like that,
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I think your obligation is primarily to them
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and therefore surrender has to be something
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that you consider in that moment in time
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so that you can take care of those people.
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If you're a man alone and you've got all these principles
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and all this other stuff and you're not down
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with what Genghis Khan is doing and what he's selling,
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yeah, try and escape, do your thing
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and just know what waits on the other side of that
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for you potentially.
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But I think if there's someone else out there
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that depends on you, your obligation should be to them.
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It feels like historically people valued principles
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more than life in this weight of like,
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what do I value more?
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The principles I hold versus survival.
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It seems that now we don't value principles as much.
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Principles could be also religion,
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it could be your values, whatever.
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We're okay sort of sacrificing those
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for to preserve our survival.
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And that applies in all forms like actual survival
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or like on social media, like preserving your reputation,
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all those kinds of things.
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It seems like we, especially in America,
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value individual life,
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that death is somehow a really bad thing.
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As opposed to saying sacrificing your principles
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is a very bad thing and everybody dies
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and it's okay to die.
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What's horrible is to sacrifice your principles
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of who you are just to live another day.
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I think a big problem is people don't really even know
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what their principles are anymore.
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People, social media and just the way that we live nowadays
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where we're separated from the human contact like this,
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like you're not contacting people in a community anymore.
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You're not, whether you're religious or not,
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like you're not congregating at a church,
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you're not part of a parish
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like you would be like in down South,
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you're not part of that community anymore.
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And so it's difficult to figure out
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what your principles and values are
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because you're constantly jumping from one bucket
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to the next online.
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And you don't get a lot of like direct,
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like reasonable feedback from people.
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You just get dipshit feedback.
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Like, oh, you don't believe this?
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Well, you're a jerk.
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I think the hard thing currently
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is having the integrity and character
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to stick by principles one under.
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I don't want to equate murder in the Genghis Khan times
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to social media cancel culture,
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but it certainly doesn't feel good
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when people are attacking on social media.
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And it does take a lot of integrity to,
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without anger, without emotion,
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without mocking others or attacking others unfairly,
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standing by the ideas you hold,
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or in another way, standing by your friends,
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standing by this little group,
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like loyalty of the people that you know are good people.
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I find that in cancel culture,
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one of the sad things is whenever somebody gets
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quote unquote canceled,
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everybody just gets all their friends become really quiet
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and don't defend them or worse.
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I mean, quiet is at least understandable.
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They kind of signal that they throw them out of the bus,
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I guess is one way to put it.
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And that's something I think about a lot
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because from coming from me, it's like,
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I don't know if others hold this ethic.
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Maybe it's this like Russian mobster ethic of like,
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you should help your friends bury the body.
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You shouldn't criticize your friends for committing
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Like there are certain levels of like,
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yeah, you have that discussion after you buried the body
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that like maybe you shouldn't have done that murder thing.
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I don't know, I understand that that's a problematic,
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what's the terminology?
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That's a problematic ethical framework
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within which to operate.
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But at the same time, it feels like what else do we have
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in this world except the brotherhood, the sisterhood,
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the love we have for a very small community.
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But perhaps that's the wrong way of thinking.
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Perhaps the 21st century would be defined
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by the dissipation of this community,
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of this loyalty concept.
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No, we're all just individuals.
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I think you're right.
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And I think you have to have some sort of core framework
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of principles and beliefs that you operate on.
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And I think what I was referencing is a little bit different.
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But to speak to your point,
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you need a framework of core principles
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on which you can then base a lot of your other decisions.
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Like I believe these three things to be true,
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whatever they are,
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and that will help inform other decisions
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you make in your life.
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As far as how you treat your friends,
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I've got probably three friends that,
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if they called me right now and said,
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let's bury the body, sorry, Lex, I gotta go.
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There are other people in my life that if they said,
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hey, we've got to go bury the body,
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I would say, who is this?
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So I think it depends on the relationship.
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I wonder if that's a good, that's a really good measure.
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I would love to have,
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I would love that to be in your profile.
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People put like pronouns.
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I would love to put like, honestly, like objectively,
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not self report, but objective,
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how many people in your life, if they committed murder,
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you would not ask any questions
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and you would help them hide the body.
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Like, I would love to know that number for people.
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Yeah, and I think it's a weird thing too,
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because you think right away, like, okay,
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it must be the group of people that are the closest to you.
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That's who you're first thinking of, right?
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But obviously for like my best friend,
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I would do it, no question about it.
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But I've got other people that are close to me
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that are close to me in other ways.
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And I probably wouldn't do that only
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because I don't think they'd do it for me.
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And that is a consideration.
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So I guess, is the principle there
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then that you do for your friends
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what you think they would do for you?
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Is that the underlying principle?
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Or do you just have a blind loyalty
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to people in your life for different reasons?
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I got people that are not on my inner circle
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that I probably wouldn't help change a tire
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at two in the morning if they're on the highway.
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But if they called me and said,
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hey, we gotta bury the body, I might show up for that.
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It's just these weird different connections you have.
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Yeah, it's fascinating.
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Yeah, I have close friends that like,
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I'd probably be, exactly, the tire is a good example.
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I'd be like, can't you find somebody else to do this?
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I think part of that is just this leap of faith
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into like giving yourself to the other person
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that creates a deep connection
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that makes life fulfilling, like meaningful
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that doesn't exist if you don't take that leap.
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I mean, it's not about the murder.
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We're sort of focusing.
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I think that's a, I think you have to,
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what is it, cross that bridge when you get there.
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I'm not exactly sure.
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This is just a thought experiment.
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But it's, I think about that a lot,
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especially these COVID times.
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And as like people become more and more isolated
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and separated from each other,
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like how important is it to have those deep connections
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I think especially like what you're talking about there.
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Have you ever seen the movie, The Town?
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There's a great line in the movie
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where one of the main characters
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walks into his friend's house and he says,
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We're gonna go hurt some people
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and you can never ask me about it again.
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And the friend looks up and he says,
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whose car are we taking?
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Like that is the type of person you need in your life.
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And the people, like there are people
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that will walk through that door and say that to you
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and you drop everything you're doing.
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And then there's the people that walk through your door
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and you're like, you know what?
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I got a hot pocket in the microwave.
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I'm a little bit tied up right now,
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but I'd love to help you out.
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But you know, I don't wanna do that.
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And you don't have that deep connection with those people.
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You mentioned some principles
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that you've changed your mind on.
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Is there, do you wanna go there?
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Is there some interesting principles
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and the process of changing that is useful to talk about?
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I can't really cite a specific thing,
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except that understanding that the principles
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that you have at different points in your life
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can change and it's okay to change them
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without being a total pussy
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and being bullied by other people
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into thinking what you thought was wrong.
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If you come to these conclusions of your own volition
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and you decide to change them, that's great.
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And it can be really, it can be really liberating.
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It's really liberating to have an idea
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that you hold so true to your core belief system
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and then to actually have someone change your mind for you
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and be okay with it, as opposed to being like, no,
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I gotta die with this.
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I gotta die with this.
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It's really liberating.
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There are definitely are ideas you wanna die on that hill
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and no one's ever gonna change your mind.
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But it's really liberating to be confident enough
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to say, change my mind.
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I'm lucky enough to have some smart motherfuckers around me
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who can tell me, listen, you're being a total dipshit.
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Like let's rethink this.
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Or like I have one friend who does the five whys all the time
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and he loves backing me into a corner.
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What's the five whys?
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You just, like when someone makes a statement
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about something, to really get to the core issue,
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they say, if you ask why five times, make a statement,
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well, why is that?
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And you answer that, well, why?
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And you phrase the whys differently, obviously,
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but then you get to the core.
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They say five times, you can get to the core of the issue.
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And that's a challenging thing.
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But I find later in life, it's so liberating for me
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to be confident enough to be like,
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man, was I fucking way off the mark on this
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and have my mind changed.
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And be able to say that to others that I was wrong.
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That ability, and I never used to have that.
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And it feels real good.
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And there's a hunger for that too.
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Yeah, you're so right, actually, on a personal level,
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it feels very good.
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Exactly as you said, it's liberating
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because you're free to then think as opposed to.
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Yeah, without thinking.
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Yeah, you get so sick of defending the same thing
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over and over and over.
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And you start to think about it and it's like,
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well, I would really like to evolve my thought process here.
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And when you're constantly defending one point,
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it's difficult to let other ideas in.
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You discount the possibility
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that you can have your mind changed
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when you're constantly on the defense.
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You have to have a crack in the front line
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in order to let a new idea come in and possibly flourish.
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And maybe the new idea doesn't even prove your current
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belief system to be wrong,
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but maybe it's like the water to a seed and it grows
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and now it's something even bigger and better.
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And you can start to work with that instead.
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And it's a tough thing because I'm a stubborn fuck
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and it's very difficult for me, it was historically,
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to say I was wrong about this one,
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or I messed this one up,
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or I wish I could have that one back.
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There's a public figure for me thing too,
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which there's a difference between changing your mind
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with a small circle of friends
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and changing your mind publicly about something,
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but it has equal, one echoes the other.
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It is equally liberating,
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but people will not make that change easy,
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but it doesn't matter.
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I think it's ultimately liberating as a human being,
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public figure or not to just think deeply about this world
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and to keep changing, which is like,
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I think there's a deep hunger for that
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in like political discourse,
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that people are so tribal currently about politics
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that they want to see somebody who says,
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you know what, I changed my mind on this.
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And then keep changing their mind and keep asking questions,
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keep showing that they're open minded,
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all that kind of stuff.
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But when you want someone in a position of political power
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to change their mind because they realize
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that there might be a better way,
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not because they realize that by changing their mind,
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they're gonna get a new demographic to vote for them.
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Like that's transparent as shit.
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Nobody wants to see that.
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Like that's a person who can't separate their position
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from their people they're supposed to be helping.
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Yeah, and you can usually smell that.
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That's, we're just talking offline about,
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there's something about Hillary Clinton
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where she talked about changing her mind on gay marriage
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that it felt like this is a political calculation
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versus like really deeply thinking about like,
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what things do we do in this world
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that violate basic human rights?
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Like really thinking about deeply.
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And of course politicians are calculating this,
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but you can see it.
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This is the thing.
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That's why I like on the human level,
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there's like political policies, but there's also humans.
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And I've always liked Bernie Sanders, for example.
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I don't know, not the later perhaps Bernie Sanders,
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but I used to listen to him back in the day.
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And it felt that people might disagree with me,
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but it felt like there was a real human struggling
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with ideas, whatever, agree with him or not,
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it felt like he wasn't doing political calculation.
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He was just a human.
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He couldn't be further away from my political ideals,
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but also like, there's an obvious authenticity
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to his passion for what he's saying
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that is not present in other candidates.
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And you could see it,
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all these people that have been in politics forever,
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like from all the way back
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when Hillary was a lawyer in the 70s.
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There's a couple of shots of her in a courtroom
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in the 70s though, she's looking all right.
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She's got those big glasses on.
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She's kind of a little bit of a nerdy babe back in the day.
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Oh, you mean like.
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Well, John Clark says Hillary Clinton was a babe
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That's an interesting question
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about authenticity in politicians.
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Do you think like Hillary Clinton,
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just the Clintons in general are a good example
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that why do you think they become over time so inauthentic?
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Is it the system that changes them?
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Is it their own hunger for power?
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Is it, what is it, or are they always inauthentic?
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Well, first I'd like to say that,
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I don't know if you know this,
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but I come from a bit of a political dynasty myself.
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I was on the student government several times
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in high school and my dad won the runoff
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in a special election in Bradenton Beach, Florida.
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I think there's like 700 people there.
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So your dad got you the job?
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Yeah, we're basically,
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a lot of people compare us to the Kennedys.
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My guess with the politicians is that,
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and you can see it now as we're becoming more cognizant
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as people to the political process,
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I think the process corrupts people.
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And I think that, I don't know the ins and outs of it.
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I've listened to people who are far more educated
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on it than me and I'm unprepared to cite
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any of their points.
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I think you can see it a little bit in Dan Crenshaw.
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I really liked Dan,
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especially like a year, year and a half ago.
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He seemed very level headed.
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It's clear to me now that as he panders
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more and more to the right,
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it's because he's setting himself for a presidential run.
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It's clear that that's happening.
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And he just doesn't seem like the same authentic
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ideals oriented guy that he did a year and a half ago.
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Now I could be wrong on that.
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It could be way off.
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But I think that you can take someone
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as honest as you want to.
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When you start them on that path to the presidency,
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you become so unbelievably beholden
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to so many people and entities along the way
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that by the time you get to the final destination,
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the Oval Office, all you're doing is paying back
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the favors that got you there.
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And you never get to serve the people
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you're supposed to serve.
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Your primary focus is on your office
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and not on the people that you're supposed to be helping.
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And I think that that's a humongous problem.
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And like we could talk all about campaign finance reform
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and the two party system.
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But at the end of the day,
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the people who are running for political posts,
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they're working to keep a job.
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They're not working to improve the lives
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of the constituents, which is different.
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A long, long time ago, like a lot of politicians,
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those were like part time jobs.
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And they held other posts out West.
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They were ranchers by day and sheriff by night,
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whatever the case might be.
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But now, such a cushy path for the rest of your life
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that the goal is to just be a politician,
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not do the things that you think a politician
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is supposed to do.
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And that's a problem.
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By the way, I'll talk to Dan on this.
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It's funny, I like the version of him from a year ago
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and I haven't been really paying attention.
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So I'll be, I'll actually pay more attention now
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and ask him that exact question.
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Like, how do you prevent yourself from changing,
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becoming what the Clintons became?
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I tend to believe like there's conspiratorial stuff
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about Clintons and all these politicians.
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I tend to believe that they were actually
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good, thoughtful people back in the day.
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And the system changes them.
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It's not even the system.
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There's something about just the process of campaigning.
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I just think it wears you down to where
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if you look at the percentage of time you spend
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on the kinds of conversations you have,
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it's like one, you do these speeches,
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which you repeat the same thing over and over and over.
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It beats the process of thinking.
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You just exhaust your brain to where
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you're not thinking anymore, you're just repeating.
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It's very, it's exceptionally difficult
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to keep making speech after speech after speech,
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saying the same thing over and over and over again,
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and at the same time thinking deeply
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and changing your mind and learning.
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And then also the pandering to financial,
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like having phone calls, like fundraising,
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all those kinds of things.
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That's what they do now.
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They spend most of their time fundraising.
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They're not worried about anything.
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Sorry to interrupt you, but I was gonna say
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that you can see there's a fuel.
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Like the more attention and the higher regard
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you're held in in your community,
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and the more sycophants like continue
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to blow smoke up your ass,
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the more it changes the way you present yourself.
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And you can see it in every walk of life.
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I mean, jiu jitsu is a tiny, tiny little section
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of the world, but you see it in the jiu jitsu community.
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When someone all of a sudden starts a social media page
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or whatever, and they get a bunch of people,
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like basically like cyber fellating them
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on their Instagram page, they change.
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Fellating, is that a word?
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So giving fellatio?
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Jamie, look it up.
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I think, but in those people, it changes their character.
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It changes who they are because they become emboldened
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and now they've got this like mythical cyber mob
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There's a sign at the entrance to your gym
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that reads, for every moment of triumph,
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it's a quote by Hunter S. Thompson.
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It reads, for every moment of triumph,
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for every instance of beauty, many souls must be trampled.
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What does this quote mean to you?
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That quote to me is about, mostly about sacrifice.
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And it's about to achieve anything great
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or anything beautiful or to triumph,
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you have to have sacrificed so many things to get there,
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unless you're the most unbelievably genetically gifted person
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in the world and greatness is just, you know,
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falls upon you, it's just raining from the sky.
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I think on your path to greatness,
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on your path to success and triumph,
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you leave a lot of carnage in your wake,
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personal relationships, other goals,
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things that you didn't pursue, you know,
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other unfulfilled dreams.
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And you kind of have to sell a lot of that out
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in order to be really at the peak of your field
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or what you want to be.
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I know that that's happened in my life.
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I mean, there's tons and tons of relationships
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that, you know, couldn't survive the way
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that I was living my life,
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because when I was trying to be a big time fighter
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or like when I was just training all the time,
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tons of relationships dissolve themselves naturally,
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some not so naturally.
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Some people get it, some people don't get it,
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some people hate you, you miss tons of other opportunities.
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And I think that's kind of what that quote means to me.
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It's about sacrifice.
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It's about you're giving up what you want now
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for what you want more.
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And it's the trampling of souls, it's messy too,
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because it's not clear what the right path is.
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Like that sacrifice is not obvious
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that those are the right sacrifices to make.
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You might be ruining your own life,
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but the fact that you're willing to take that risk
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and sort of go all in on whether it's stupid or not,
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go all in on something,
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that the possibility of creating something beautiful
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Who says it's stupid?
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If you're going all in on it, you don't think it's stupid.
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Someone else might think it's stupid,
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but I mean, who really cares?
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Well, I'm of many minds on many things,
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so I feel like there's certain minds,
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certain moves of the day where you think it's stupid.
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Like relationships is a beautiful one,
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which is, you've seen the movie Whiplash, by any chance?
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It seems like in a man's life,
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or it could be a woman's, but I don't identify as a woman,
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so I know the man, the lived experience.
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But my lived experience for now is that of a man.
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We'll see about tomorrow.
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And there is, in the pursuit of excellence,
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there's often a choice of,
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some of the souls that must be trampled
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are personal relationships with humans in your life
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that you might deeply care about.
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It could be family, it could be friends,
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it could be loved ones of all different forms.
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It could be the people that, your colleagues
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that are dependent on you, people who will lose jobs
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because of the decisions you make, all this kind of stuff.
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It seems that that moment happens,
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and I'm not sure that sacrifice is always the correct one.
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Like, to me, the movie Whiplash,
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for people who haven't seen, spoiler alert, maybe?
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I don't even know if that movie has any spoilers,
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but there is a relationship with a female.
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There's a student, there's a drummer
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that's pursuing excellence
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of this particular art form of drumming,
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and he has a brief, fleeting relationship with a female,
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and he also has an instructor
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that's pushing him to his limits
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in what appears to be awfully a lot
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like a toxic relationship.
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And he chooses, not chooses,
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he naturally makes the decision
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to sacrifice the romantic relationship with the woman
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in further pursuit of this chaos of,
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this chaotic pursuit of excellence.
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And that doesn't feel like a deliberate decision.
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It feels like a giant mess of like an emotional mess
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where you're just like,
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kind of like a fish swimming against stream,
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just like, fuck it.
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You let go of all the things that convention says
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you should appreciate.
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You throw away the possibility of a stable life,
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of a comfortable life,
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of what society says is a meaningful life,
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and just pursue this crazy thing
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full of seeming toxicity
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with crazy people surrounding you.
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So I don't know what the right decision is.
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Part of my brain says, you should stay with the girl.
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Fuck that instructor that's making you,
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that's pushing you to places where it's like,
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that are destructive, potentially destructive,
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like could lead to suicide,
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could lead you to completely
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fail or fail on your pursuit of excellence
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or destroy the dream,
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the passionate pursuit of the thing
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that you've always dreamed for,
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in that case is drumming.
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There's so many minds there.
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Like what is the right thing to do?
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So my first two thoughts are,
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number one, fuck convention.
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What is convention?
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It's like some laid out path,
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some linear progression of the way your life
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is supposed to go,
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like that someone can draw a picture of at the end.
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That shit's, first of all, it's just boring and whatever.
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And it's, I don't wanna say that it's cowardly
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because it isn't cowardly,
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but for someone who's not conventional
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to not be nonconventional is cowardly,
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to get sucked into the convention.
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I believe that scene in the diner in that movie
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where he tells her you're in my way
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because I'm gonna want to be with you,
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or you're going to want me to be going out to dinner
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with you and I know I should be practicing,
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or I know I should be training.
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And ultimately I'm gonna make,
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I'm either gonna feel bad about not being with you
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or I'm gonna skip the training to be with you
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and neither one is right.
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The whole thing that they don't mention in that
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is that that's the wrong girl.
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That's the wrong girl.
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The right girl is a gangster.
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The right girl says, oh, you've practiced tonight?
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I'll leave you a sandwich and some milk
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so that you can, outside the door,
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let me know when you're done,
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or you have some free time.
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The right girl compliments that.
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She's not an impediment in any way.
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Even if what you wanna do is be with her so much
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that you're putting the drums down,
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or you're putting the bass down,
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or you're picking up the pizza,
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or you're not going to training,
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that girl, without even telling you
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why she's making decisions,
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is making decisions to help you achieve your goal.
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Now that might sound like some sort of chauvinistic
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king of the castle type shit
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where everyone should cater to you,
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but the fact of the matter is
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that person is a compliment to your life
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in helping you do your thing,
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and in your own way you're helping them
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to achieve whatever their goals are also.
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It's uncommon that you have two people under the same roof
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striving to be unbelievably excellent in one small area.
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It's not impossible, but it's uncommon.
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Relationships have to be like binary systems,
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The gravitational pull is what keeps you together
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and circling around one another, right?
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And one is bigger than the other,
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and they'll fluctuate,
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and the stars will get bigger,
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and they'll get smaller,
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and they'll contract based on positioning and composition.
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That's the way a relationship should be,
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not an asteroid coming in to disrupt
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the surface of your planet.
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It's a binary system, it's a compliment.
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That girl was the wrong girl for him.
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like the big unconventional dreams
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should not be adjusted to fit into this world.
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Because I mean, there is a part of me
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that's like full of self thought,
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well, maybe you're just a dick.
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Lex, so first of all,
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This is, by the way, somebody who's,
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you have recently gotten,
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well, in the span of the history of the universe
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is recently you've gotten to a relationship,
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but you haven't always,
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you have not felt the need to be in the relationship
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just because you're supposed to
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by society's kind of momentum.
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If you, I think that if you really want anything,
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you've got to be prepared fully to be the exact opposite.
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If you're a person who's looking for a relationship,
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the only way you're going to get in an awesome relationship
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is by being comfortable being alone,
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because that's the risk.
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If you're a person who's driven by money,
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you've got to be comfortable being totally poor
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because that's the risk, right?
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And when you're constantly hedging your bets,
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you're never all in.
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You're never all in on the thing you're trying to do.
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So a relationship has to compliment your life.
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You can't say, it's okay to want to be in a relationship,
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but you can't want to be in a relationship so bad
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that you take someone in who fits the suit.
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And it's like, oh, our schedules kind of work out.
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You live near me and this and that and the other thing,
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because the logistics of a relationship
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are not always perfect.
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It's what matters is when the two people are together.
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That's the perfect part of it.
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And it's great to want to meet people and say,
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if we meet and some sort of a relationship develops,
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I'm willing to run with it,
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but I'm not meeting you hoping a relationship develops.
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I think you kind of put the cart before the horse
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in a lot of those situations.
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It's like when guys meet.
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No guy goes out and is like, I'm looking for a bro, right?
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You go to the gym and you run into a bunch of dudes
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and the next thing you know, someone's cool
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and they want to talk about fighting
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and you're fucking shotgun and beers.
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And all of a sudden you got a bro and that's how it works.
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It works the same way with women.
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What's a shotgun and beers?
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I'll show you after this.
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You poke a hole in the bottom and you open the top.
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Yeah, this is the problem with America.
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Drink vodka like a man.
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Okay, now don't poke holes in beers.
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This is the problem with the frat culture.
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They don't really know how to drink.
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They think they know how to drink.
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They don't know how to drink.
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What do you think makes a successful relationship
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if we can linger on that a little longer?
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Like, let me ask John Clark about love.
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I didn't ask a question, but let me just say love.
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Are you one of those people who never says I love you?
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No, no, I'm an extreme person.
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And like my emotions are also extreme.
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And one of the things I concern myself with,
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maybe this is philosophical and martial arts warrior
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soldier type related stuff is like, I don't want anyone.
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If I die tonight on the drive home,
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hopefully that doesn't happen.
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I hope that no one is left questioning
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how I felt about them.
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And people I don't like probably are not questioning that.
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And so the thing that I've had to learn
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how to do later in life is to tell the people
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that you care about, that you care about them.
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And each thing can be equally off putting
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to the receiver of the message.
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Each thing can be equally off putting
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to the receiver of the message.
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When you're letting someone know how much you dislike them,
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that can be off putting to the person
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receiving that message.
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And when you tell someone how much you care about them,
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it can also be off putting to the person,
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depending on how they view their relationship with you.
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But it's still important to get it out there.
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Like you shouldn't hold those things in
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because you're worried about how they'll be received
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or if they'll come back at you.
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So you're okay going all in on these?
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Not afraid of commitment?
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No, I'm not afraid of commitment.
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Anyone who says they're afraid of commitment
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You know what they're afraid of?
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They're afraid of commitment with that person.
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That's what they're afraid of.
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Like when someone knocks you on your ass
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and they come into your life
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and you're flush with all these emotions,
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you're not worried about,
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oh, I don't really like commitment.
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No, because they've knocked you on your ass.
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You want to be with them.
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You want those things.
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The two most alive points in your life,
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I think people feel is the euphoria of a new relationship
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and then the loss when that love is gone.
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You'll never feel more, I don't think,
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than in those moments in your life.
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See, the nice thing about the loss is it lasts longer.
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That's a Louis C.K. point that he makes,
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which is like that,
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like in his show, I think,
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is a conversation with an older gentleman
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that says like that's his favorite part
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of the relationship is that period
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between the loss of the relationship
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and the real death, which is forgetting the person.
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But that period lasts the longest
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and that's like the most fulfilling,
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like missing the other person
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is as fulfilling as the actual love,
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the early infatuation, which is interesting.
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I also think of the Bukowski.
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There's a little clip of him in an interview
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saying that love is a fog
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that dissipates with the first light of reality
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or something like that.
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So basically emphasizing
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that it's this very, very, very fleeting thing,
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that it's a moments thing and then it just fades
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and everything else is something else.
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So love is only a temporary thing, which is interesting.
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I think some people say that's cynical.
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I don't know what to think of it.
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I think it's important to understand
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that everything is fleeting
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when you don't put effort into it.
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Almost everything will be fleeting.
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If you don't put effort into it,
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most people will get fat and lazy.
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If you don't put effort into something,
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you're gonna not be good at playing guitar or playing bass.
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You've got to put effort into it.
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The same thing goes for a relationship.
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That the awesome part of it, that like love part,
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that dies soon and early on in a relationship
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because it's so good
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that we think we don't have to work at it, but you do.
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You have to keep doing the things
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and you gotta keep things new and crisp and fresh.
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And different people probably feel differently about this,
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but I don't know, you walk around your girl
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and you start like farting and stuff,
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like that's when it all dies.
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That's when it dies.
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We're all human beings.
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We're all here and our bodies work in the same way,
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but you start to chip away at this beautiful thing
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when you buck conventional courtesy and things like that.
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Well, take it for granted, basically.
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You take it for granted, yeah.
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I mean, that's the same thing with life.
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I'm a big fan of meditating on death
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that you could die today.
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In the same way you should meditate
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on this relationship could end today,
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this connection with another human could be.
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This is the last time you could be interacting.
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And your chances of that increase
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when you take it for granted and you shit on people.
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But when you work at it, the chances of that decrease.
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It's never gonna be zero, but it decreases.
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And when you do that, when you're the person
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and you're trying to maintain
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and you're trying to work at the relationship,
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you gotta make sure that both people are working at it.
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Otherwise, you're just a fucking chump.
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Okay, let's return back to mixed martial arts.
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Let me ask the ridiculous question
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of who do you think are the top three,
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maybe top five greatest fighters of all time?
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It's so hard to compare fighters across generations.
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And maybe one way to say it is which metrics
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would you put on the table
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as to measure what a great fighter is?
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There was a guy named Dioxapus.
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And in the fourth century, and he was such a badass
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that in the Olympics in 336 BC,
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no one even showed up to fight him in the Pancration event.
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Nobody even showed up because he was fucking everybody up.
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Years later, he was retired.
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And this crazy Macedonian dude came there
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at some dinner for Alexander the Great,
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everyone's chilling, drinking,
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whatever they were drinking out of their chalices.
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And this Macedonian dude threatened him and challenged him.
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So Dioxapus said, yeah, man, we'll throw down.
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And they set the time and the place.
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Macedonian dude comes out like body armor,
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spear, shield, all this other shit.
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Dioxapus came out absolutely naked with a wooden club
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and took on this much younger guy,
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beat the living crap out of him
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and then put his foot on his throat
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and then didn't even kill him in the show of ultimate power
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There's something about the guy being naked too
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is just extra demeaning.
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Extra demeaning, yeah.
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Okay, can we rephrase the question then?
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Because those are clearly going to be
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some probably forgotten warriors in history.
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Well, let's take it to like modern day mixed martial arts
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in the UFC, perhaps.
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Well, just mixed martial arts there.
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Who do you think are the top fighters of all time?
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What metrics would you consider
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in trying to answer this perhaps unanswerable question?
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I think one of the things you want to think about
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is strength of opponent at the time you fought them.
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So for example, fighting BJ Penn in his prime
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and beating him is far different
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than beating BJ Penn last year, right?
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So to say you have a victory over BJ Penn
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is not the same given the timeframe of when it happened.
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Not to take anything away from anyone who's beaten BJ Penn.
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Just use that as an example of someone whose career
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went into a different direction.
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I would say the guy who I think is probably the best
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that people are the least familiar with
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would be Marillo Bustamante.
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And I think he was a guy who was one of the guys
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with the first really good physical build for MMA,
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which I think is narrow from the chest to the back
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and long shoulder to shoulder
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and kind of sinewy made out of steel cable.
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That was a guy who could box,
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that was a guy who could wrestle,
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and that was a guy who had great jujitsu.
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He wasn't a great kickboxer,
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but at the time he didn't need it.
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Fought everybody and gave everybody a run.
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I think he's probably one of those guys
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who's gotta be considered.
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Yeah, there's a few killers that never,
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because why is he not in the discussion?
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Because I think greatness requires both the skill
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and the opportunity to meet each other.
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And when you talk about a fighter,
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the other thing that really a good fighter needs
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to become great is a foil.
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And so many fighters don't have a foil.
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That's one of the biggest detractions, I think,
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of early Mike Tyson's career.
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He didn't have a foil.
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He had no one driving him.
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And by the time he did,
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by the time he had a foil in Holyfield,
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his career was in a different place.
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But he's one of the greats of all time,
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and he never really had a foil,
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so his greatness was in unparalleled destruction
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of like nobody as well, of lesser opponents.
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Right, and so when people debate
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the level of greatness of Mike Tyson,
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that's one of the things they say,
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like he didn't fight a lot of killers in their prime.
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I think you've obviously got to say in that conversation,
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I have a really difficult time
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keeping George St. Pierre out of the conversation,
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only because he was able to beat you with anything.
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He could out jab you, he could out wrestle you,
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and he could submit you.
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The problem I have with Fedor
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is his career also took a drastic turn towards the end.
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And when he was fighting in Pride,
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he was doing a lot more grappling,
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and then he just started casting
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that overhand right at people.
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And his game kind of changed at that point.
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You can't take anything away from his greatness,
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but at that time, the great heavyweights
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were not really fighting in Pride,
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and they didn't really exist yet.
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And by the time he fought a really good one,
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Fabricio Verdun, he did get submitted there.
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Does his later performance color your and our perception
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of his greatness in general about fighters?
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Not mine, but I'm someone who's intimately involved
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in the sport, but it colors everyone else's.
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Same with Anderson Silva.
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I don't think Anderson Silva doesn't want to fight
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in like seven years or something, or he's like one.
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That's a guy who in his prime was one of the best fighters.
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Is he in the top five for you?
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I think he's probably in the top five, yeah.
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Greater striker of all time or no?
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In mixed martial arts.
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In mixed martial arts?
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In mixed martial arts, that's a tough question.
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The greatest MMA striker of all time.
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Because like the timing,
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we're talking about foot sweeps, right?
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Who makes it look easier than Anderson Silva?
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I think in an incredibly short sample of his prime,
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it's gotta be Anderson Silva,
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and I think you have to consider discussing Leota Machida
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for his unbelievable manipulation of distance,
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which is something that people don't really talk too much
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about in terms of fighting,
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unless you're someone in the sport.
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That his use of distance and the ability to like,
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what we call pop out, like make you miss by one inch
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so that he could follow your fist back in
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as you retract it and it hit you over the top,
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that that's a thing of beauty.
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Anderson Silva, when he became a counter striker,
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when he got to his prime in the UFC,
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that was a thing of beauty.
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That was a thing of beauty.
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So I think definitely those two guys
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and Murilo Bustamante's gotta be the third guy.
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There's just so many good guys now.
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So where do you put, in terms of metrics,
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you mentioned GSP and Anderson Silva,
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I think they have a large number of defenses of a title.
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Is that important to you?
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Like this kind of consistent domination?
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No, because it's easily manipulated
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by the people making money off the fights.
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So there was a great quote one time
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when the UFC was coming to prominence
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and Vince McMahon from the WWE, he said,
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you know, the difference between what we do
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and what UFC does is that when we have a superstar,
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I can make sure he stays on top
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until he's no longer a superstar
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because we have predetermined results.
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UFC can't do that because they're actually having fights.
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Well, it's true and false.
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You can't do that,
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but you can give your superstars the most favorable matchups
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to keep them on top for the longest.
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So people always talk about title defenses
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as if the guy they're fighting, the challenger,
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is always the person most deserving of the shot.
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And it's just not true.
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So I don't put that much stock in it.
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Is it possible to put a guy in consideration
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as one of the greats
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if all they had is one or two amazing fights?
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I'll tell you, like an amazing
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could be a lot of different definitions.
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It could be just the war.
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Like they never really reached
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the highest of excellences of domination,
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but they've, like this,
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we had this discussion about Kyle Bokniak, right?
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To me, that's a perfect example.
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He had this famous fight against Zabit Magomed Sharapov,
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where on one side you have an Anderson Silva type of fighter
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and Zabit, like just a very good striker.
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Like, and then there's like the warrior on the Kyle side.
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And just the fight,
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they created something special together.
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It was fight at night, whatever.
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But the, you know, that fight was special on that night
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because the two dance partners.
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You can have a great performance
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without being a great fighter.
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Not saying neither of those guys is a great fighter,
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but to answer your first question,
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I think that having one or two great performances
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does not necessarily mean that you are great.
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I need a larger sample size.
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I have no idea what that is.
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I don't have any idea what that is.
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where, how much weight does toughness have
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when you're thinking about the criteria
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when you define a great fighter?
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That's a good question.
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And I don't have the answer to it.
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I admire the underdog that rises to the occasion
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through brute force.
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they didn't bring the skillset to the table
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that perhaps some of the greats have,
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but they rose to the occasion.
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I mean, there's something about that.
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There's something about that.
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And so now we're more talking about like
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the internal attributes
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as opposed to the external physical attributes.
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And those are the things I think that you cannot teach.
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Those things, you come in the door
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and you either have that or you don't.
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I think, and we talk about this all the time,
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and this is one of the things
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where my mind changes regularly.
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Like on what makes a fighter,
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is it born or is it bred?
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And this week I'm of the opinion that it's in you.
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And maybe it's in you and you suppress it
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and people can tease it out of you,
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but I don't think you can make someone
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who doesn't have that seed in there.
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I don't think you can turn them into that great warrior
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with that level of grit and mental toughness.
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Now, when that fight, when Kyle fights Zabit,
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it's a unique situation for both guys.
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It was kind of a later replacement fight for Kyle.
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Zabit's star was on the rise.
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And Kyle put the blueprint out there on how to beat Zabit.
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Which is pressure him
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and try and drag him into the late rounds.
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You notice that later on when Calvin Kader fought him,
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they wouldn't give him five rounds.
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They wanted five rounds.
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And Zabit's camp, from what I understand,
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would not agree to the five round fight.
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Well, he didn't look.
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Right, so with Kyle, it was a three round fight.
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Three round fight.
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And did it went to decision?
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It went to decision.
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Well, Zabit won the decision, clearly.
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Did Kyle have a shot at winning the third round?
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I don't remember the exact score,
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but Kyle could have won the third round
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had he done a couple things differently.
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But I do believe in the fourth round,
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I think Kyle wouldn't have won a fourth round.
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And I think maybe even won the fight
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if there would have been a fifth round.
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And he was pressing forward,
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perhaps in a funny way that you could tell me I'm wrong,
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but it felt like he wasn't emphasizing head movement
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He went full Mike Tyson.
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There was a point at which,
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so it's funny that you say that.
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Which is a contradiction, actually, because.
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Mike Tyson had great head movement.
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I actually don't know exactly what I mean
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because he was in the pocket.
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I think he was trying to do the movement.
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He was just in the pocket and pressing forward.
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And the fuck you attitude of just not pressing down.
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That was a little bit later
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when Zabit's back was towards the cage.
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Towards the end of the round.
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We get that fight.
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And I said to Kyle, I was like,
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look, this kid has been training martial arts
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since he was three years old.
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There's not an area where you're gonna out technique him.
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And so we've gotta now channel some of that grit
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that we know you have.
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This is an opportunity to showcase it.
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And I don't know how long I did it for,
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because Kyle's much shorter than Zabit.
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So for a good long while,
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while we were training for Zabit,
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I didn't even say anything.
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And I just had clips of Mike Tyson training
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on the TV in the gym and the head movement.
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And I didn't even mention it.
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And then we started to like get into it
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and talk about getting inside the length
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of the longer fighter and things like that.
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And we kind of, which when some people train MMA,
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they say, okay, this guy's a really good wrestler.
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Let's think about avoiding the wrestling
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or being a better wrestler.
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And I think that when the difference in skill is so great,
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those are both the wrong answer.
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If a guy who's a really good wrestler wants to take you down
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and you don't have a lot of wrestling experience,
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he's probably gonna get you down
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if he's got a good coach, right?
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So you have to deal with that.
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To then say, I'm gonna then learn in eight weeks
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how to wrestle better than a guy who's been wrestling
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since he was eight years old is also a bad idea.
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So what we concentrated on for that camp
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and it worked beautifully was
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not getting caught in chain wrestling.
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These are the takedowns you're gonna get caught with.
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This is how to not get caught with the next step
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while you're defending takedown one.
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Cause it's the chain of techniques
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that are gonna get fucked, right?
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So we talked, we did a ton of work on get ups
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and breaking the hands from the various takedowns.
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Like it was a while ago now.
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So I don't remember exactly the techniques we worked on,
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but we concentrated on defend the first takedown
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and stay out of the chain.
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Don't get chained into a bunch of wrestling techniques
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cause you will be out wrestled.
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And that was really successful.
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And then in the third round, Zabit was tired.
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He's Zabit got tired.
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He cuts a tremendous amount of weight.
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Like I can't see him staying at 145 forever
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when they start giving him five round fights.
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I don't even know if he's had a five round fight
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and he may have, but I can't see him staying down there.
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He's, the guy's like six one.
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Guys, he's a giant of a guy.
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So Kyle pressed forward there and he said,
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he felt that there was no power left in Zabit's hands.
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And so he felt fine.
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And I think part of it was he fed off the crowd
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as he moved forward and, you know,
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saw that he wasn't taking a lot of damage.
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Like the punches weren't staying him.
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He started walking right through him.
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It goes to your question of what makes a fighter.
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Was the, him walking forward like that,
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something that you're born with
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or is that something you were training?
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Is that the Mike Tyson on TV?
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He's born with that.
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Kyle is born with that.
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And the crowd, I've been in a lot.
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No, he was in New York.
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He was in Brooklyn.
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I've been in a lot of arenas
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for a lot of different sporting events.
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That's one of the loudest things I've ever heard
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I was going crazy.
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And you ask about that being like taught or not.
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Kyle is so much like that,
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that I have to try and tease some of that out of him,
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Because he's also so very technical when he wants to be
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that the emotion and the fun of it
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gets in the way of his technique.
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And probably has cost him a couple of wins.
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And so that's one of the things
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we work on with him right now.
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It's like staying within yourself, being a professional,
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taking your time to download the information in round one
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and then starting your fight in round two.
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But the tension between those two things,
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what makes, what on that day created one of the,
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in my opinion, one of the greatest fights I've ever seen.
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Yeah, it's one of the greatest fights
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I've certainly ever seen.
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So like, it's funny that you as a coach,
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I can see the frustration of like,
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like throwing away some of the strategy kind of thing.
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Like you seeing like being not happy
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that there could be things
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that he could have done to win the fight.
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It's in retrospect.
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I think that at that time,
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we were playing with incredible house money.
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Like Kyle was a gigantic underdog in that fight.
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Zabit was unstoppable.
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I think people were probably picking him
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to finish the fight in round one.
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I think at that point,
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no one had ever gone the distance with Zabit.
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And no one certainly had, you know,
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put that kind of performance together.
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And I think Kyle put the blueprint out there.
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And in retrospect, when I look at the last round,
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yeah, there were things that could have been done differently,
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but we're playing with house money at that point.
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Like, I mean, let it fly.
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You get to a point where you've got it,
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you're down three rounds and there's 20 seconds left.
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You got to move all your chips to the center of the table
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and, you know, see what happens.
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Do you remember what Joe Rogan said about it?
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I remember like he got won over.
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I think I have trouble remembering
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because offline we talked about that fight
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and he's exceptionally impressed by,
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I mean, Joe's from Boston, so it's like,
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I mean, there's a story there.
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Okay, it sucks not,
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you naturally want to romanticize,
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like there's a Rocky versus like,
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there's a Rocky IV, a Draga.
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I mean, similar, I suppose, kind of chemistry.
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Kyle's style represents the American.
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Yeah, I mean, he's from Gloucester.
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It's like, you could have dragged him off the docks
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three hours before the fight and said,
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hey, you want to go fight?
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And he would have said yes.
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Oh man, that was a special fight.
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But that's, as per a discussion
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of like greatest fighters of all time,
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I tend to believe that that fight is more special
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than the championship belt defenses by George St. Pierre.
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Like, you know, there's something to that.
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It's like Rocky, Rocky I is more special
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than like Rocky III, right?
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So like, it's the underdog or it's whatever,
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like the dance partner is like going to war
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and like that moment, I mean, it's bigger.
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It's bigger than any individual fighter.
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They create that and that,
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I know it's not perhaps good for a career.
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It's not good for like in terms of money,
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in terms of longevity,
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in terms of all those kinds of things,
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but that's a special moment in the history of fighting
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that you both created.
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I can remember like right after,
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like there was so much excitement in the air
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during the third round.
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And I remember being in the corner
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and like, I was so excited at the end of it
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that I had forgotten what happened in the other two rounds.
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I didn't even know.
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And I looked to Sean, one of the other corner men,
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and I think I said to him, did we win?
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When you rewatch the fight,
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clearly we didn't win the fight.
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I mean, we lost the other rounds,
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but I got so caught up in that moment
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and I just remember like,
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I was so in awe of his performance
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that like I forgot what was going on.
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And it's so hard to not be a fan at that moment
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and to stay within yourself and try and like coach,
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but then what the fuck you even coaching at that point?
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It's like, we're rumbling.
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We got 30 seconds.
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We're trying to win here.
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And I remember like the performance itself,
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I'm not a fan of moral victories,
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but if ever there was gonna be one, that was one.
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And when the fight was over and I grabbed Kyle,
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like they hadn't even been to the center of the cage yet.
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And I just hugged him and I said, you're my fucking hero.
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And I remember being very emotional about that,
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that I was able to be a part of that.
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It feels wrong to say, but I was,
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I kind of avoided saying it,
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but I think if I'm being honest with my feelings,
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this is a safe space for feelings.
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Is I think it was the greatest mixed martial arts fight
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And I don't think I'm being biased.
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I was honestly thinking like, am I being biased?
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I honestly don't think so.
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I think that was the greatest fight.
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Like if you wanna rank fights I've ever seen,
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I think to me that was the greatest fight I've ever seen.
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It certainly was one of the greatest displays
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of like just dogged effort from an underdog
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who was out experienced and probably outsized.
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But I mean, like you just,
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Kyle's one of those kids,
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you're never gonna tell him he's out of a fight.
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He has something you can't teach.
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And I've seen tons of people with more physical attributes
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and they're just mental midgets
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and they got a million dollar body and a 50 cent heart.
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And Kyle is not that.
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And you can't teach it no matter what you do.
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But that was, I would say like my career in combat sports,
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which spans, if you wanna go all the way back
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to like wrestling, like that was one of probably
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the greatest experiences I've been a part of.
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It's a bittersweet sport.
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She's a fickle mistress.
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Yeah, I mean, the tragic aspect of that is
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like, I guess Kyle lost, right?
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So like if you look at the record
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and all the kind of things,
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perhaps like you look at the career,
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maybe like as a financial,
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from a financial perspective that perhaps is not
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the greatest thing for Kyle's career
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or that or in the history of the UFC,
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perhaps it's not like maybe many people
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didn't even watch that fight,
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but it was a special moment that stands in the history.
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There's not many of these in the history of fighting.
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But at the end of the day,
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when you look at someone's career in the UFC,
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like financially, there's a handful of people
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that make real money.
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Everybody else makes nothing.
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There's a handful of people that make real money.
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So did that loss cost him in the near term?
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Sure, but when you look back on your life,
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you're not gonna look back on that loss
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as something that derailed my life financially
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and I never recovered from it.
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That's not gonna happen.
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Like the sad thing is, is unless you were a champion
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and most people are gonna be forgotten
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right after they're gone.
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Most people will be forgotten.
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And if you're not forgotten,
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certainly your accolades are gonna be misrepresented.
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Either they're gonna be inflated or diminished
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one way or the other.
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So looking back on it, it's just so hard to quantify that.
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But it's an experience.
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And when you're in that moment
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and you're one of the people intimately involved in it,
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the value of that experience supersedes any financial gain.
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Where would you put Khabib
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in the discussion of the greatest of all time?
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So you recently, we worked together,
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we watched the fight of him and Justin Gaethje
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and Khabib retired.
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Would you put him up there as one of the greatest
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or did he never truly find his foil,
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like the great warrior that challenged him?
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And maybe do you think he's fully retired now?
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To answer the question about being fully retired,
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I don't have any idea.
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I can't for a second pretend to think that I understand
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the way that people from that part of the world
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think and respect their family and things like that.
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To an American who says,
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oh, I promised my mom I wouldn't do it.
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I mean, I promised my mom I wouldn't do a lot of things.
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I went right out the fucking back door and did them.
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But I think that that means something different
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to people in different parts of the world.
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So I have no idea what kind of weight that carries.
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So I can't answer that.
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I can say a lot of times when people think
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about great fighters,
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they think about the aspects that make up MMA.
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Like they think of MMA as a pie
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and they're all these different pieces that make up the pie.
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And how good is this piece?
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And how good is this piece?
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And how good is this piece?
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When the fact of the matter is
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is you only need one really, really, really good piece.
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And the other pieces are complimentary pieces
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to get you to where you're the strongest.
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And if you want to tell me
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that Khabib's not the greatest MMA fighter
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because he doesn't have really slick striking,
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you can make that argument.
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But what I can tell you is Khabib has good enough striking
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to get him to his grappling
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where he is clearly the best guy at 155 they've ever seen.
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So does that make him the greatest fighter
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in that division or not?
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To your point about the foil,
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they wanted Connor to be his foil
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and he just manhandled them.
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I mean, they wanted that to happen.
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Well, there's a kind of argument to be made which we kind of,
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now you get haters in this argument
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and you're going to be one of the haters
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because I know your, how should I put it?
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Lack of admiration for Connor McGregor.
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Football is a game of inches?
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There's a sense where that Connor,
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there's an argument to be made
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that Connor wasn't exactly dominated,
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that he ended up being dominant,
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meaning, let me phrase it differently,
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is there's a lot of points in the fight
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that a different trajectory could have happened.
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So he wasn't so far from having a chance
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at winning that fight.
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It's just the end.
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Those are the most important moments at the end.
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You've lost the most important moments.
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Right, but the road less taken.
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It could have been,
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if he didn't lose those very important moments,
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I'm saying out of all the people that Khabib fought,
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it's arguable that Connor was up there
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of the people that had a chance.
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Let me say this first.
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I'm going to get so much heat for this.
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I'm a huge Khabib fan
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because I'm a grappler first and foremost.
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Me too, because I'm also Russian.
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I love Khabib, calm down.
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When Connor came on the scene,
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I loved Connor because I'm an Irish American
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and I want to support him and things like that.
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And he was good fun.
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He got to be, for my personal taste,
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he got to be too much.
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Of all the people Khabib has fought,
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I would never fight Connor again if I were him.
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And I said this about the Diaz fight.
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Nate Diaz, who was one of my favorite fighters,
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has fought the exact same fight for 12 years.
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Connor will switch something up to give himself an edge.
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And I believe that Connor would figure something out
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in fight number two, I think,
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but I also thought that Gagey would give Khabib problems
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where it wouldn't be a matter of
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I'm going to out wrestle Khabib
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or become better at defending his wrestling takedowns.
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Connor would have figured out a way to not get wrestled.
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I feel like he's constantly changing.
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He's constantly evolving.
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And whether or not people realize it or not,
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I think Connor's one of the better overall athletes in MMA
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just from looking at his body and his movement
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and the way he's shaped.
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He's got a very tiny waist.
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He's got really pronounced glutes and shoulders.
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And I think he's a for real athlete.
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Whereas a lot of guys in MMA are not for real athletes.
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They're just good at one of the things that makes up MMA.
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I understand what you're saying about
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if this happened, if that happened,
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but I mean, you could say that
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about every single combat sports event ever.
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If Spinks's hook landed on Tyson,
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maybe that fight didn't end the way that it did,
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but you know what?
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You're absolutely right.
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But if we could talk about just Connor McGregor
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I can't wait to get your fan mail or hate mail.
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Speak to the innovation of Connor.
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I don't hear very many people making this argument,
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but is it possible to make an argument
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that Connor McGregor is one of the greatest fighters
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It's an interesting argument.
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And the problem, the only problem with the argument
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is there's so much emotion on either side.
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Yeah, I had a conversation, sorry to interrupt,
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with Yaron Brook, who is a philosopher,
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objectivist, which is the philosophy of Ayn Rand.
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And the amount of emotion around that particular human
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is fascinating to me.
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It's similar to the amount of emotion around Donald Trump.
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You can think of different personalities, maybe Elon Musk.
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Those are the people that aren't willing
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to have their mind changed.
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They're too emotionally attached to the argument.
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Yeah, but it's weird that why do we,
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why some people inspire so much emotion and others don't?
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But Connor McGregor, I feel like nobody's able
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to have a calm fight analysis of the guy.
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Look, to me, as just a fan of martial arts,
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like I studied judo, I love watching just hours
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of Olympic judo and appreciating the art form.
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Like I forget the humans involved.
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Teddy Renner, who's a heavyweight,
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the most probably the most dominant heavyweight
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in the history of judo, just studying his gripping,
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just the art of it.
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And who cares if there's shit talking?
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Like to me, I put all of that aside
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and just look at the art.
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And like what I really appreciate about Connor McGregor
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is his innovation, like of movement,
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of maybe it's romanticized, maybe you can correct me.
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I'm just a Cheeto eating fan of mixed martial arts,
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but like I seem to detect more innovation
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than almost any other fighter
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that I've paid attention to in Connor McGregor.
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I think first, I'll answer in two parts.
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I think, well, I'm not gonna answer the first part.
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It's just a comment, because you didn't ask the question.
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What was the question?
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I don't even remember.
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It's about how Connor McGregor fans are very emotional
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and Connor McGregor detractors are very emotional.
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I think fans become very emotional.
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They become cheerleaders of someone like Connor McGregor
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or Donald Trump, because they see that person
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exhibiting the qualities that they themselves lack.
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And so they become cheerleaders for that, right?
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And I think that for the most part,
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people who are detractors of Connor McGregors,
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they're not really Connor McGregor detractors.
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They're detractors of Connor supporters.
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There's a beef that they have
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with the people in that bucket, right?
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Like, it's not really a problem.
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And that applies probably in our current political climate,
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Donald Trump with the left and the right.
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It's more about like, they actually don't like
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on the other, the caricature, the most extreme versions
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of what they see in the supporters of the other side.
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Yeah, that's a good point.
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But I think the more interesting thing
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is the fighter himself.
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So let's put the supporters aside.
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I would say that, you know, what some people know
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and some people don't know is that Connor's base
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is in karate and the karate style of Connor McGregor,
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Steven Thompson, of Lyoto Machida,
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that type of distance management,
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a lot of times we think as martial artists,
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we think that the sport version of the art
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we've chosen to pursue somehow taints the authenticity
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and the effectiveness of it.
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But point karate is what led to that
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in and out distance management style of Connor,
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of Lyoto and of Steven Thompson.
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They all kind of use it a little bit differently,
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but they use it very effectively, all three of them.
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And that comes from a world of trying to kind of like
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step in, land contact on you from my point
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and then get back out before you can counterstrike me, right?
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And that's where that comes from.
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Connor is blessed to have a longer arms
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than someone his height probably normally has.
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And his movement is just so fluid.
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He's so athletic with the hinges of his body,
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the knees and the hips and the swivel of his body,
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which is also the hips and the shoulders.
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His movement, his distance,
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and the way he sets people up for the straight left hand
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while you're circling away from it
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and he can still land it,
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which is what he did to Chad Mendes.
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Hit him with a straight left
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while he was circling away from it.
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That is something that is very beautiful to watch.
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And sometimes people see the kicks
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and they see all the flashy snap kicks and the sidekicks.
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All that stuff is doing is setting people up
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for the left hand.
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It's all it's doing.
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It's you're corralling people, you're funneling people,
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or you're leading the dance and you're bringing them
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to a spot where you know you can land that left hand.
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And his ability to do that is masterful.
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People constantly shit on his ability to grapple
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because a couple of his losses
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have been to jujitsu guys or grapplers,
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but they've been to really good guys.
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Anyone who's gonna sit here and tell me
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Conor McGregor's not a good grappler, go grapple him.
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Let me see you grapple him.
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To that point, I'll also say a lot of people
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will use Conor McGregor's X guard sweep on Nate Diaz
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as evidence to his high level grappling in that fight,
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to which I would also counter,
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Nate Diaz didn't fight that off
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because he knew he was so much better at jujitsu
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off the bottom that he didn't even care if he got swept.
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So is Conor McGregor innovative?
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Is he one of the best fighters ever?
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It's tough to say because he's such a cash cow
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that he was fed people.
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I firmly believe no one who put
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that Conor McGregor Khabib fight together
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thought Khabib would win.
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I remember, so at that time it was not completely clear.
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There was a myth of the great Khabib.
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It wasn't completely clear how good is he really.
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So that's interesting.
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And it was unclear how good is Conor also.
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Because I think to me,
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maybe part of my admiration of Conor McGregor
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is rooted in the fact that I thought
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there was no way he beats Jose Aldo
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and I thought there's definitely no way
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he beats Eddie Alvarez.
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And so like when he did,
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I was like, my brain was like,
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there's something broken.
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It was like shut down, like on windows, like froze.
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We have to rethink this.
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Like this is a special human.
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Now people who argue he's not even in the running
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of like top 20 is,
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if you look at the number of defenses, for example,
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of his belt that he had very, very little.
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But like to me, I'm one of those people
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is back to our discussion of like,
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do moments make great fighters?
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That I think just being able to beat Jose Aldo
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and I would argue in his prime,
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some people might disagree in this,
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in a way where he like figures out the puzzle,
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gets in his head the entirety of the picture.
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And then to be, I mean, Eddie Alvarez,
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would he be considered a really strong wrestler?
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Like, or not strong wrestler,
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strong striker and wrestler,
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the whole combination of it.
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And also what's the other wrestler he fought?
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Chad Mendes. Chad Mendes.
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So let me comment on all those if I may.
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So I was at the Chad Mendes fight live.
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And there was a jujitsu tournament, we're out in Vegas.
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And so me and my best friend came out
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and we got some tickets.
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That night was supposed to be the first Aldo fight.
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Aldo got hurt, like right after I bought the tickets.
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They pulled Chad Mendes in.
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He was a little bit out of shape, whatever.
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You still got to fight the fight.
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But I don't want to use that fight as evidence
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to Conor's greatness because they pulled Chad Mendes in.
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He was like hunting and drinking beers in the woods
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and was a little out of shape.
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But if you want to talk about greatness,
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like that surpasses your in ring accomplishments.
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I was in the stands that night
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and the people that came from Ireland
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to see Conor fight that night,
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single handedly set the market
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for hotel room prices and airline tickets to Vegas
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These motherfuckers were all dressed like Conor
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They had wool suits on and big beards
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and the whole thing.
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I mean, they probably weren't pocket watches.
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I never saw more people trying to be someone else.
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Never saw more people try to be someone else.
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I mean, there's a level of,
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is there a level of greatness in that?
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I mean, I don't know how to parse all that out.
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You're somebody who doesn't admire that.
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I love that in the sense, the following sense, I think.
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And people don't seem to hold this belief at all,
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but to me, fighting is not just,
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this isn't like a quiet street fight that nobody watches.
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This is also a spectacle.
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This is also a story.
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There's like, there's a professional wrestling element
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This is not, like you think it's just about fighting.
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If it was just about fighting, you wouldn't,
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I mean, there's a story to it, I guess,
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is what I'm trying to get to.
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And greatness has to incorporate that.
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People that criticize, again, I might be wrong on this,
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but I honestly think that Conor McGregor,
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not nearly as much as Khabib,
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but he's a true martial artist.
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I think he respects his opponents despite the talk.
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Maybe I'm misreading it,
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but it feels like he is a storyteller,
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like Chael Sonnen type of like, he's constructed this image
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to play the story, like just the way he acts
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after the fight, the honor he shows to his opponents.
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There's a real martial artist in there,
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and to dismiss the fact that the story of the fight
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is part of it, because he doesn't just shit talk.
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This is what people don't seem to understand.
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He's good at shit talking.
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Very good, and I'm with you on basically everything you said.
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I think that there's greatness to that,
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and I think that he understands how to sell a fight,
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and I think what he did to Jose Aldo by getting in his head
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helped him win that fight.
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He insulted Jose Aldo and his country so much
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that he knew Aldo was gonna come forward
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right into that left hook.
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Was that fight in Brazil, by the way?
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Because I know he insulted all of Brazil,
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but I'm not sure if it was in Brazil.
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But when he tried to do that to Khabib,
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you could tell that he just was not gonna get
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Khabib was unflappable.
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But there is definitely something great
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about how he moves people.
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The Irish are like, I mean, Conor's walkout music,
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for people from Ireland of Irish descent,
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that shit is like very deep.
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You know, it's a very emotional song.
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I was, to be honest, a little bit upset with Khabib,
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that he didn't rise.
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I admire that entire culture.
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But there's an aspect to where he could have risen
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to the occasion of there's the same kind of depth
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of love of country that Russia has.
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Is there in Dagestan?
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Dagestan is a little weird in terms of like,
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but he could have, especially with Putin's support,
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wear for a bit the full Russian hat
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of like this is the great nation.
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Like rise above the culture of Dagestan,
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which is a small town boy with the small town values
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of family and all those kinds of things.
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There's a moment where you inspire entire nations.
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Like the step up and be the foil
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to the great Conor McGregor where also Khabib
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becomes the foil to, like both of them
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are the foil to each other and become like,
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that fight was already a great fight, right?
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But it could have been something historic.
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Ali versus Fred, I mean, it could have been really historic.
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And I would argue, I guess the biggest disappointment I have,
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and I understand it and I also honor it as a martial artist,
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but to, I'm disappointed that Khabib doesn't seem
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to even consider the possibility of doing in Moscow
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fight number two, and because that could be narrative wise
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if they do it right, that's one of the,
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could be one of the greatest fights in history.
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Yeah, I think in terms of Khabib and inspiring a country,
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is it possible that by staying true to the values
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that he had his entire career and getting to the zenith
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of his art form and still doing it in that humble way,
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isn't it possible that that inspires?
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Yeah, 100%, so I should clarify that I think
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they're just hearing from people,
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from my fellow comrades, no, is they love that.
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They love that, but they.
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There's also a brash, beer chugging, shit talking thing
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that people really like about Connor, and I do love that.
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But the beautiful narrative would have been the clash,
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the real clash of those cultures.
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So Khabib chooses to live the culture by walking away.
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There's also like a clash of them sort of walking,
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not walking away from the fire, but walking into the fire
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of this brashness.
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It's the sort of the cool collected calmness
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of the Dagestan people.
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It's like you were talking about the Saitya brothers.
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So they just view it totally differently.
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And there are stereotypes about the Irish
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where they're maybe potentially a louder,
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more boisterous culture.
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Haven't heard of that, yeah.
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And I mean, I thought they each played their part perfectly.
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And all those things that you're describing
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could have happened.
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Maybe Khabib steps up and he carries the proverbial flag,
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so to speak, for a nation of people and they go to battle.
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But the fight, if it plays out the same way,
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is still the fight.
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And it was an okay fight.
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It wasn't a great fight.
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It was, you know, the fight was okay.
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And I think that, again, I don't have any idea
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what Khabib's obligations to his family are.
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I don't think either of those guys want for more money.
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To do another fight is just a legacy thing.
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It's just about fulfilling some part of a legacy.
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And I just, I admire the possibility of a great legacy
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that is bigger than either of the fighters.
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I think with Khabib, he kind of, he's not as concerned
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about legacy, I think.
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Your promoter's dream, because you want the rematch,
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and the only thing that makes more money
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than the rematch is the trilogy.
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You gotta split the rematch, you hope Conor wins,
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and then you have the trilogy fight.
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And now you're all in.
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Yeah, I can't get into Khabib's head,
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but I know Putin, just the game, the entirety of it,
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especially at the time,
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especially if it was Trump as president,
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if he was as president at the time,
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and Putin, and in Russia,
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and just knowing how masterful Conor is at,
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because Conor would be a different Conor.
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I think he would be a calmer Conor.
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There would be a different,
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because you don't wanna be over the top Conor
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with the Russian people.
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Right, no, that's...
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It's like, ah, this is dangerous ground.
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See, that was the episode in the hotel in Brooklyn
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when some of the Russian guys confronted Artem,
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and then Conor came over.
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It's not, but the danger of that.
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I mean, there is the element of just like real danger,
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and the real, it was almost of war.
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It's, I don't know, it's...
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It was like when Chael Sonnen was talking so much smack,
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maybe it was against Vanderlei Silva.
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I don't know, and it was one of those fights
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where they just didn't think he was gonna make it
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Americans don't get it.
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People take some of that shit in different parts
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of the world very, very seriously.
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Yeah, but that's what makes it beautiful.
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That's what makes a great story,
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and I think fighting is very much about the stories,
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not just about the particular outcomes of a fight,
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or the skillset matching, or the chess of the fight.
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It's also about the story of the greater,
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like context of societies, of warring.
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We're like warring cultures, but we're still,
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we're still good, we're no longer can have great,
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big, hot wars between nations because of nuclear weapons.
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This is our wars that we can have,
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and in some sense, I feel robbed of the great war
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that could have happened.
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It doesn't mean there aren't lots of wars going on,
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but yeah, the big one is not gonna happen.
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There's too much of a balance of power
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with nuclear weapons and technology and stuff,
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but it's not the end of war.
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Do you think there's always gonna be war?
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I think there'll always be war,
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especially in underdeveloped parts of the world.
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Isn't there always underdeveloped,
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relatively, parts of the world?
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Yeah, I mean, at some point, though, you'd think,
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I mean, the way that technology's expanding
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and we're bringing technology to weird parts of the world
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that you wouldn't think of as technologically advanced,
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the way that the Chinese are inhabiting certain areas
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for mining purposes and things like that,
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I think underdeveloped parts of the world
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will get developed quickly.
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I just wonder what the nature of that war might be.
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It could be cyber, it could be all those kinds of things.
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I think in developed nations, it's gonna be cyber.
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I think that's probably the next phase of war,
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but I mean, I think you talk about parts of the world
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like the Middle East,
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and it's just still gonna be warring tribal factions.
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We can't even begin to understand
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what those people are fighting about over there.
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Yet, everyone sitting in America on their couch
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You can't even begin to understand it.
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Yeah, it's back to the principle discussion,
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when what's violated is much deeper
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than just kind of anything we can even,
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in a middle class existence, can even comprehend.
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A lot of times, American soldiers will go to war
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because that's what they're told to do,
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and maybe they disagree with the orders,
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and maybe they agree with the orders,
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but I get a sense that people in the Middle East fighting
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all believe in what they're fighting for.
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It's not a thing where they're told to go do it.
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I believe they really believe
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that what they're doing is the right thing,
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and they're defending some sort of principle.
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Are you generally optimistic about the future,
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speaking of war, of human civilization?
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Do you think we'll, people talk about the Fermi Paradox
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and asking why haven't aliens visited us,
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if you believe they haven't visited us.
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One of the thoughts is that there's kind of a great filter
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that intelligent civilization reach a point
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where it destroys itself naturally,
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so that's why we haven't seen them.
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They don't last very long.
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There does seem to be a kind of,
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we seem to be advancing faster and faster and faster.
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We keep developing more and more powerful ways
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of destroying ourselves in all kinds of ways,
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not even, just even to say nuclear weapons alone,
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but there's all kinds of new ways,
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engineer pandemics, nanotechnology, AGI,
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all those kinds of things.
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It seems to be that the argument that we are going
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to destroy ourselves in some kind of creative way
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very shortly is not too crazy of an argument to make.
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Are you more optimistic or pessimistic
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about the prospects of human civilization
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in maybe the 22nd century?
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Like, is it possible that your generation
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is the last generation to be alive on Earth?
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No, but I wouldn't say that five generations
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from now that could be true.
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I guess I think of it really selfishly.
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I'm a big believer that when your time here on Earth is over,
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the overwhelmingly vast majority of people
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will be forgotten within 12 calendar months.
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People with no family will be forgotten sooner,
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and so I don't give a lot of thought
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to what will happen to Earth or mankind when I'm gone.
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I give more thought to maximizing my time here now,
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and I wanna do it in a way where I don't,
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I'm not overtly hindering the future of civilization
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or humankind, but I'm definitely taking a me first approach
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to how I live on Earth.
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Do you have a philosophy behind why you have
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or don't have kids on this topic?
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Because for many people, when they have kids,
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there's a sense, it's almost like a genetic sense
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or something like that, where all of a sudden,
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you do start caring about what happens
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five generations from now.
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I mean, I think I'm just too selfish.
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I mean, I think that's the easy answer.
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Like, I know that your whole life has to change.
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You know, your focus, everything shifts,
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and just don't wanna do that.
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And also, I think that there's a level of,
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I guess if I have to really unpack it,
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there's probably a level of lack of hope in the future.
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Like, I don't think it's, I don't think the world
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and humanity is going in the right direction.
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What does the right direction look like?
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I think the right direction looks like people
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coming back together in a more impactful human way,
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in person, touching, feeling, talking face to face.
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So all the things you're describing is what we had,
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as you mentioned before, when you were like a teenager.
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So the state of the world.
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But that's because your mind was formed then.
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It very well could be.
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It very well could be.
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It's very possible that the virtual reality worlds
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that we'll create will be actually
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a much higher level of existence.
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In fact, like now we're getting,
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we're moving slowly away from tribalism,
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perhaps you could argue the ideas of nations,
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and we're going, we're moving into the realm of ideas
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and it could be a higher form of existence
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where we're sort of moving past the constraints
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of our meat vehicles into the space of our minds.
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It depends what you value.
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Cause when you sit here and you talk about it,
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and you're talking about these things
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in these humongous levels, on these macro levels.
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And I don't think a lot of people view it that way.
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I think a lot of people view it as like,
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what kind of pizza am I getting tonight?
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Like it's a much different outlook.
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And sure, the virtual world that's on the horizon,
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I'm sure it's got benefits and will help people,
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but is it gonna help the things that you find valuable?
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Like, was it gonna help commerce?
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Is that the thing you find the most valuable?
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Is it gonna help communication?
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Well, it'll help disseminating information.
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Is it gonna help explain the information
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you're disseminating?
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Is it gonna hinder interpersonal communication?
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And those are things I find valuable.
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Interpersonal communication, talking to people.
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Like it saddens me when I go into a restaurant
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and there's five year old kids who like,
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slamming away on an iPad and can't make eye contact
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with anybody or teenagers who don't say please and thank you
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when they order from the waitress.
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Like that to me is wrong.
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That shit's wrong.
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And I don't know this for a fact,
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but I do attribute that to using technology as a crutch
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when we're raising raising kids.
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So, you know, I think those are things that I find valuable.
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I tried to empathize.
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I mean, I agree with you as a person who grew up
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in a certain age, but like prior to the internet, I suppose.
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But, or at least solidified the early philosophies
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of the way I see the world prior to the internet.
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During the time of AOL, let's put it this way.
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Uh, what was your AIMS screen name?
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I was the last person I knew to get a cell phone.
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I was so anti all that stuff because I just felt like
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I didn't want to be a part of it.
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I did not want to be a part of it.
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I joined the underground forum about MMA in 2000 or 2001
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when I first started training.
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I think right at the tail end, I got a MySpace,
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but I didn't have any of that stuff
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and I didn't want any of it.
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It just was, I was not into it.
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I felt like, like what are the good things
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that are going to come out of it?
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Oh, I'm going to get my package in two days
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instead of four days?
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Does that make my life better?
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I try to, I try to deeply empathize
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with a lot of experiences of other people.
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And like one of the things I love,
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like the smell of paper books and books in general.
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And early on, this is like five years ago,
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I just gave away all my books.
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And I said, you know, I'm really going to try to
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fall in love with the books in the same way I did before,
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but now with a Kindle or not a Kindle,
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like paper, white, whatever, the ebook reader.
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And I'm still not there,
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but I've been kind of trying to fall in love
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with that experience.
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And the same way I try to think like,
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teenagers are really into TikTok now,
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like making these short videos.
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I try to consider the possibility that their existence
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will be a much happier one than I've had
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because of this kind of interaction.
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From my sort of skeptical perspective,
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it's like the attention span is so short,
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they don't really deeply think or deeply experience things.
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They construct a social layer that they present to the world
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and they work on creating this social layer,
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like the presentation to the world much more
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than really sitting alone with their thoughts
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and the sadnesses and their hopes and dreams and fears.
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And like working on the project that is their own,
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like actual person that exists in this physical world,
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as opposed to working on the project
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of a particular social platform that they show.
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But like, perhaps that project,
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like who cares who you are in the physical space?
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Maybe what you are is what your Instagram shows.
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That's the more important project to work on.
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Well, what's reality?
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Yeah, what's reality?
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Perception is reality, right?
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So how other people perceive this constructed thing,
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that's their reality of you.
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But is it your reality?
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Like that, I mean, like we said earlier,
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it's how you want people to see you
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is very rarely in line with how you really are
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or how you see yourself.
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And I mean, I can remember being like a 13 year old kid
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and like when you go through a bunch of weird
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13 year old kid shit, like sitting in my room,
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like turning a red light on
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and listening to like a sad record
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and like trying to figure out what's going on inside.
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Sometimes you like it, sometimes you don't like it.
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But I feel like those experiences are lost
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on kids constantly connected to a phone.
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And like, you know, I don't know what the remedy
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for those situations is nowadays.
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Like, I don't know, do they make a TikTok video?
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Do they blog about it?
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Do they, you know, make a video or a...
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Nobody blogs anymore, bro.
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Or a video, a story about,
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oh, this is what happened to me
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and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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Does that actually help them work it out?
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Or does it just create more noise and more static
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on how to get to the root of the problem
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and learn about themselves?
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I don't know what future social networks are exactly.
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I do know on a shallow level,
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it does feel good when somebody clicks like on something.
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I think that is more of a drug
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than an actual deep long lasting fulfilling happiness.
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But perhaps there's a way to make a social network
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that does lead to long lasting happiness
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that's somehow detached from the physical meat space.
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I don't know, but it feels like
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you want to give that a chance.
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Do you think when people are liking things on social media,
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do you think there's just a group of people,
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an overwhelming majority of people
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that are gonna like whatever you put out there,
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they're clicking like,
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and then there's another section of people
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that just constantly scroll and like,
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scroll and like, and scroll and like.
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Like, do you think when you get a like
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on content you put out,
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that that like perhaps came from someone
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who normally doesn't like your content,
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but like you've just changed their mind on something,
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you've turned them around on it.
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I tend to think that when I get likes on social media,
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those are just the people that like all my shit
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no matter what I say.
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Like they probably don't even read it.
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Like I could put the most preposterous thing up there
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and you're still gonna get a handful
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of the same exact likes.
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That's interesting.
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But I tend to, the way I see likes,
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you're kind of, you said multiple things.
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I think in one sense you see social media
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as like a battleground of ideas
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and like is a kind of indicated,
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like the best possible like is an indicator
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of like, of you winning over somebody on an idea
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and they really appreciate that idea.
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That's the best possible like.
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To me, a like is just two strangers smiling at each other.
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Like a moment of like, like.
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Yeah, I got you, bro.
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Yeah, like fist bump.
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Like, yeah, we're in this fucking thing together.
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This whole thing doesn't make any sense,
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but we're in this together.
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And yeah, it's possible for likes to be that.
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I don't think the actual clicking of a like,
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I think social media at its best might be that
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where it's like, I got you, bro.
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And it's a large scale as opposed to kind of
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this weird, like crazy pool of dopamine
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where everyone's just obsessed with this likes and likes
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and then the division drives like more
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of this like weird, anxious engagement.
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I think that's just the dark version of it
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in the early days of social media.
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I think you called it a battleground of ideas,
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but I think social media is nothing but a battleground
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Well, but humans are fragile egos.
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I mean, maybe, but I think the people,
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I think particularly on social media,
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they're the most fragile.
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Like, would you be doing all the things you're doing?
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What would you be doing if you weren't,
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if you weren't podcasting and posting the things you do
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on social media, what would you be doing?
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You'd probably be much the same guy, right?
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But I think that on social media,
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the fragile ego people, what you see on social media
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is not what they'd be doing without social media.
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Does that make any sense?
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Like you're probably,
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your mission is probably somewhat congruent, your path.
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You're just utilizing social media.
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But I think a lot of people,
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social media has changed their path
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and now they're doing something totally foreign to them.
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And they're only able to do it maybe
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because of social media.
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I think you're focusing on a particular moment in time
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of people in their less great moments,
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like in their less great version of themselves.
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I think you're just focusing on the masses struggling
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to become the best version of themselves.
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And then you, yeah, sure.
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For stretches of time, whether it's days, weeks, and months,
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you could be a shady person on the internet.
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I think you're focusing on that.
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And unfortunately, social media platforms emphasize
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they love it when you're like that,
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when you're not doing great in your own life
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because it increases anxiety, increases engagement,
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makes you more susceptible to an argument,
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and then really get pulled into like conspiracy theories,
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all that kind of stuff.
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But the other side works too.
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I think there's also the people who are on social media
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fronting like they're these positive figures
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and going to the gym, whatever it is,
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the positivity that they spew out.
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But in real life, they're the most negative fucks
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you've ever met in your life.
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And they're just so full of crap.
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And it's just people playing to an audience.
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It's like you said, it's like a politician sometimes.
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A politician wakes up one day and they decide,
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who's the group I can pander to the best
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to get the most likes equals votes?
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And it's the same thing on social media.
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People wake up and whether it's conscious or not,
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what's the group I can pander to the best
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to get the most likes?
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Is it the positivity motivated crowd?
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Is it the woe is me crowd?
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Who's gonna give me the most likes?
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That's what I'll do.
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I don't know how to argue against that.
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I guess it rings true what you're saying,
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but I just kind of refuse to believe it.
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I guess I'm pandering to the optimistic crowd.
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Like I met with my marketing team
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and I just feel that love has the best,
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what do you call it?
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There's a lot of people that accuse me
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of being like exactly that,
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which is like, why are you always being positive?
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It's like, well, cause I'd like to be that.
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Yeah, but I wouldn't consider you someone who panders.
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No, but I guess what I'm saying is like,
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it's easy to say that everyone is pandering,
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but like maybe they're just trying.
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I do believe that social media platforms
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could encourage people when they're trying
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to be the best version of themselves, whatever that is.
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It could be like Conor McGregor talking shit.
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It could be just being positive.
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It could be actually creating cool things in this world,
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putting out instructional videos for Jiu Jitsu
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or like inspiring students to competition.
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All those kinds of things, educational content.
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I think that people are trying.
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Like I tend to believe that people want to be good.
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Like they want to be successful
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in whatever that definition of success is.
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And they're kind of struggling to do that.
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And they're just awkward at it at first.
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And like, it's easy to focus on the awkwardness
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and the stumbling around as people have that.
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And they start shitting on each other.
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It's easy to kind of focus in on that.
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But I think that's just like people, you know, white belts.
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There's more white belts in the world
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than there are black belts.
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But you gotta give them a chance to kind of grow.
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I think on social media, if you put your stuff out there,
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whatever your stuff is, your content, your views
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or whatever, you let the chips fall where they may.
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Like that's a different thing than being like,
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I'm gonna tweak what I normally might say
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and put it up this way
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because I want these people to like it.
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And in terms, I also think I have a different viewpoint
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than you do on people wanting to be successful.
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I actually don't think that many people
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want to be successful.
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I think people want to have the appearance
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of wanting to be successful.
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But to be successful takes a shitload of work.
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And most people don't want to put that work in.
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So they craft this persona of a person
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who's trying really hard, but just can't catch the break
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or, you know, these motherfuckers
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with getting back on my grind.
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You've never been on a grind.
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You've been on the couch.
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I so disagree with you.
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You enjoyed that guy on the couch with the cheetah.
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That's your motivation.
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Don't be like back on the ground, back on the couch.
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Well, you're like David Goggins,
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who was like talking shit to the one guy
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with the eating Cheetos.
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And so doing inspires millions
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to actually pursue their success.
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But I just think that most people
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really do want to be successful
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and are trying to work hard and they keep failing.
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But why is it continue?
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I'm sorry to interrupt you.
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But like, let's take a person who's overweight.
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Do you not think that person wants to be skinny?
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Of course they want to be skinny.
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They just don't want it enough
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to put the pizza or the pie down and go to the gym.
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They want it, but they want it to be easy.
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Of course they want to be skinny.
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Well, everyone wants it to be easy.
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And of course people want to be successful,
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but do they want it enough to do the work?
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I don't think they do.
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I think the easy thing to do is to create
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an outward facing persona of the person who really wants it.
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And you get the same reward from a lot of people
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as the person who actually is successful.
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Very few people differentiate
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from the person who's found success
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and the person who's showing you
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how they're trying to get success on social media.
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People see that as the same.
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I see you're going after the marketing dollar
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that represents the people that want to work hard.
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You started a podcast recently.
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It's called, which people probably from this conversation
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can, I guess we didn't really talk about politics much
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or the fact that you're a business owner
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or the fact that you're a red blooded American
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and love this country, America.
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We didn't really talk about that,
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but from the name of the podcast,
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they can probably infer it.
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And the name is Please Allow Me.
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What have you learned from doing this podcast?
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What's your hope of doing this podcast?
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People should definitely listen to it.
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You have a few episodes out.
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You're damn good at it, which is very interesting.
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I'm sure you'll evolve and change.
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So this is like the early days.
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I'm curious to see where it goes,
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but what's your thinking around it
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as an intellectual putting your thoughts out into the world?
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I think that one of the things that COVID did
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when we're all kind of in lockdown was as a business owner,
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made me take stock of what's the future
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of brick and mortar businesses.
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And I've always been reluctant
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to be an online presence in any way,
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just because it's not my thing,
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because I believe that I'm a force of nature
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and people need to experience me, right?
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And the few characters that Twitter has are phasing.
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It's not enough to experience.
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The force of nature, there's John Clark.
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I want you to feel physically uncomfortable around me.
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This has been three hours
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of me being physically uncomfortable.
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I'm scared for my life.
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And so I thought that that would be one of the ways
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in which I could increase.
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I came to the conclusion that with the lockdown
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and potential future lockdowns,
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in order to pay my mortgage and my bar tab
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and my Grubhub's out of control,
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that I would need to find ancillary ways to...
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Door dash slash Lex.
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You don't want to use Grubhub, Grubhub sucks.
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No, I'm just kidding.
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You can go back to your local fooder.
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Yeah, and get the food.
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You can order 711 from Door Dash.
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Or from Postmates.
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Okay, I'm sorry, go.
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But anyway, I thought it was like,
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oh, I should probably increase a little bit
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my online presence and what would be a way to do that
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that would be fun for me and entertaining.
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And I thought, well, a lot of people, yourself included,
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that I know have done some podcasts
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and I find that inspiring and I'm fortunate enough
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to know a bunch of cool motherfuckers
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that I can talk to about a wide range of topics.
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Then they're starting to drop in.
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There's an aspect to which podcasting
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does capture the force of nature better.
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In the digital form, podcasting captures
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the force of nature of a human being
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better than other mediums, perhaps.
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Yeah, definitely, there's that.
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I just felt like, you know when it's midnight
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and you're in the bar and you get the sense
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that the bar's gonna close in 90 minutes
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and you think, you know, not enough people have seen me yet
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and maybe we should go to another bar
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so more people can see me.
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I feel like podcasting is like that for me.
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Not enough people have heard my thoughts
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and I feel like, my mom raised me to be a giver.
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She didn't want me to be selfish.
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And I have these thoughts that I think.
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It'd be a waste if you didn't give it to the world.
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People seem to really enjoy them.
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Yeah, no, I enjoy them.
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While I've probably been on my best behavior today
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on this episode of the podcast.
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So if you want the uncensored, unfiltered,
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the full spectrum of the force of nature,
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there's John Clark, you go to the podcast.
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Funny enough, I think you're drinking
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throughout most of the podcast.
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Tequila, so they only last like an hour
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because you seem to like, I'm guessing
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that you just lose it one hour.
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Like it's like Cinderella turns into a frog or whatever.
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One of the things I'm learning is
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sometimes you have great conversations when you're drunk
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and sometimes you don't.
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Like I went into it with the write drunk,
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edit sober mentality.
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But turns out that sometimes you don't have that much
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to edit when you're super shit faced.
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And so I've been scaling that back a little bit.
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What do you mean exactly by that?
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Like, where does it go wrong when you're drunk?
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I'm curious about that, because.
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It gets, especially when you have a personal relationship
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with the person that you're talking to,
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rather than trying to put some ideas on display
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for other people to hear and maybe talk about,
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you wind up just having like a conversation
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with your bro about inside jokes and things like that.
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And it's like, it's not that interesting.
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No one wants to like watch, you know,
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go to a bar and watch two people at the,
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sitting there getting drunk and talking to each other
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is different than listening to like strong discourse.
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One interesting thing as a fan of Joe Rogan,
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I'm a fan, I've been a fan of Joe Rogan for a long time
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and he has his friends over a lot, right?
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And there's a aspect to those three, four,
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five hour conversations that I really enjoy.
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There's a magic to those.
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I think he taught the world that those kinds
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of long form conversations can work.
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The, what you forget is Joe Rogan is a comedian.
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His friends are also celebrities.
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Like they know what it's like to be on the mic.
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They know there is a challenge
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to actually having your friends on a microphone.
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Like they've never,
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this is the first time they've been on a microphone.
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And that's actually what you've been doing,
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which is a very interesting experiment.
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And you find that some are more awkward than others.
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Like they're trying to find like,
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what do I do with this kind of thing?
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Why do you not talk to strangers?
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Why did you go with people that you're actually know?
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So the simple answer is the people
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that I selected are both interesting
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and I thought would be good at talking.
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But then I noticed the thing you just mentioned.
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My buddy Paul did the first one and Paul's a wild man.
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And if you went out with Paul,
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he can talk about a bazillion topics
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to a certain, to a significant level of depth, right?
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And he's got a good understanding
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and he's got a unique perspective on a lot of things.
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And I think he was the first guy invited on my podcast
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and it was almost like he was on a little bit
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less than natural about it.
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And then by the time he loosened up with some drinks,
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he was, it just, we were all shitfaced.
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There's a face shift though.
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And so he's gonna come back on
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and he'll be more comfortable with it.
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And it'll probably be awesome
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because he's a great person to talk to.
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I had my friend Dave on who's a restaurateur
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and a musician, that one will be released pretty soon.
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But yesterday I had a guy on
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who you might really enjoy listening to
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who's a friend of mine, his name's Mark Clem.
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He's an endurance athlete and he's been compared,
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he's been called the white Dave Goggins.
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And he talks about like those comparisons
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and what he hates about it and the various events and stuff.
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And he's just a guy who's just always kind of like natural
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and like, I knew he'd be great to get on the podcast.
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And so I started with friends who I thought could handle it
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and who also are just really interesting people.
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And I did it so that I could also establish
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a level of comfort because it was a new thing for me.
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And I knew that they wouldn't really give a shit
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what I was doing and be like, hey, this is cool.
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I'm going over to JC's house.
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We're gonna drink some tequila and talk shit.
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There's just gonna be a microphone there this time.
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I mean, it's amazing what you're doing, the freedom of it.
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I mean, you're not currently doing any advertisements
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or any of that kind of stuff.
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You're just exploring your voice.
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This is one of the mediums that you're just trying it out.
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My 11 subscribers know what I'm about.
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Your 11 subscribers, it's in the double digits.
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For both you and I, do you have advice for me
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as a podcaster and for yourself as a podcast?
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Like if you were to think like you're gonna do say,
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I mean, who knows, but say you do a thousand more episodes.
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Like imagine a world where your life continues
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in that direction, that this is like a little parallel.
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Like for me, this thing is like a little side hobby,
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but it's also one that's deeply fulfilling.
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So not just from a business perspective,
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which is not the way I think about it.
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I just think from a life human perspective,
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it's I probably wouldn't have this kind of conversation
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with you off mic, like this long, this deep, this attentive.
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There's something really fulfilling
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about these conversations.
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So what advice would you have for me?
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What advice do you have for yourself?
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Oh, have you not introspected this that deeply?
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Oh, I have advice.
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I think the first advice I would give to you
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is I think you should have me on more often.
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That's first and foremost.
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And second is go on your podcast and have a conversation.
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Well, I would say you come on my podcast when you're ready.
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When you feel like the product that I'm putting out
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would benefit from your presence and vice versa,
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not as a favor to a bro, but at the right time.
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I do sense, actually, it's an interesting,
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there's a dance to it, which is like Joe Rogan,
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I recently did, like Joe Rogan had a conversation with me
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There's a very specific kind of thing
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where you're helping each other out.
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But the timing on that has to be right.
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You know, like if that makes any sense,
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you're like supporting each other.
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It doesn't make sense.
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It doesn't make a difference, you would think.
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Because it's just people talking,
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it doesn't matter what microphones,
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but it changes things.
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It does, and there's an order to the guests
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And the next guest that I'll have on
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will be a friend we have in common,
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and we'll be talking about teaching
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and how to teach different styles of teaching
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and what you're teaching and all these other things.
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Your mind's saying who?
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And I think there's an order to,
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it's not scientific, but it's based on my gut.
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Is it astrologically based?
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What do you mean it's not scientific?
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Your gut, so you have a sense,
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like Joe Rogan, for example, tries to do left, right.
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He tries to alternate like this gut feeling
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of like these bins of people,
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and he tries to alternate worldviews.
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That's interesting.
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Like he kind of, so that he doesn't feel like it,
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like it constantly shakes him.
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It's more about him,
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like constantly pulls him in multiple directions
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about like how he sees the world,
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and that keeps him balanced.
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That keeps the conversation kind of exciting.
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That's interesting.
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I did it in a way where I knew Paul was gonna be wild
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and we might get a little out of control
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and like have some technical hiccups along the way.
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And then my friend Jake,
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who's a CEO of a pharmaceutical company,
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that was very timely because he was able
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to speak to vaccines.
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And that was kind of scientific flavored.
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And what I learned listening back on that
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is like I learned for myself about,
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I wasn't asking the next level questions
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to really draw out great answers.
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And part of it is you're simultaneously hanging out
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with a bro, but also I was trying to learn something
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and I didn't learn what I wanted to learn.
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And that's my fault because I didn't ask the questions.
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He's an expert in that field.
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He doesn't know that I'm an absolute dipshit
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when it comes to that stuff.
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And so I didn't do a good job.
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And if I don't know it,
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that means the thing I was trying to tease out of him,
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no one who was gonna listen is gonna learn that either.
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So I learned that.
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Then I had the one with soap on,
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which I thought was pretty good.
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He's a wrestler, he's also a farmer.
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Right, and a social worker.
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And kind of humble and thoughtful.
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Like slower, he's not a wild man, that kind of thing.
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Not a wild man in the sense that I'm wild,
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but he does preach this philosophy of being more wild.
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Like being in touch with nature.
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Nature, that kind of wild.
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Right, right, right.
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And then my buddy Dave, he came on because I love music.
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And I wanted to talk a lot about music.
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And he's one of the most knowledgeable people
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about music that I know.
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And he's got a restaurant coming up.
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And I thought my buddy Mark Clem,
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being an endurance athlete,
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like when you hear some of the things,
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I didn't even know these things existed
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that this fucking kid did.
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He's out of his mind.
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And I think Sean and I will have
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probably the most intellectual conversation
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that I'll have had on my podcast to date.
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And so there's a little bit of alternating there,
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but I did it that way so that.
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There's a gut feeling behind, oh, so that what?
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Is there, where are you going?
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Do you know where you're going?
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I don't have a destination, but I want to,
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I want to see it to its end, whether that's,
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it gets somewhere of its own volition
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or it takes on a new life at some point.
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And then I know how to drive it where it needs to go.
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I think the advice I have for both of us is,
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I think I need to, no, I don't think so.
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I think for you, I see an inner turmoil.
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I see a storm that bruising you
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because I feel like there's a concern
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for what you're saying.
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And is it gonna lead to negative feelings towards you
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or the thing that you're doing?
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And I feel like we're different people
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and I have such an easier time saying fuck off to everybody.
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And that's a liberating thing,
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but it also can keep me from achieving the thing
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that I want to achieve,
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because I'm so flippant with opinions
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that I don't listen to them
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and let them direct me when they should.
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There's a balance.
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Let me push back on that.
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I think you believe that about yourself
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and nevertheless, your social media presence
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indicates otherwise.
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If I were to be very harsh,
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you're like one of the mentally strongest
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character wise people I know.
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And yet on social media,
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you don't put your face to the world.
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So one of the reasons you sense the fear in me,
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which exists, I of course want to let go of it,
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is because I put my face and my name on things.
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And so when I say something stupid,
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it hurts when people say like,
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look, that guy said something stupid.
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And so there's a fear of saying something stupid
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in all of his different forms,
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like of being my lesser self.
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It's the same feeling I have in competition
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of losing, not just losing.
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Losing doesn't matter.
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It's embarrassing myself.
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I like losing, being the lesser version of myself.
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And when you put yourself out there in a full way,
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I would venture to say you're also,
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because you said you wouldn't give yourself that advice.
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I feel like you're also afraid
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of standing behind some of the ideas,
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because right now you're doing guerrilla warfare.
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You're free to be,
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to say things, to speak your mind from the sidelines.
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But the moment you're standing,
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and when people can throw shit at you,
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I feel like you haven't faced that fire yet.
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You've been avoiding that fire.
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I'm not sure, maybe I'm projecting.
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No, to a degree you're right.
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I think a big thing for me was putting ads on
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for our Jiu Jitsu online curriculum.
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That was a big thing for me,
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because for several reasons,
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like in the climate of everyone under the sun
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having a Jiu Jitsu tutorial online and social media,
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not social media necessarily,
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but forums specifically that critique and shit the bed.
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One thing I have not done that I've thought about doing,
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and probably you're right in your analysis of it,
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is I've not gone the way that I do see you
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on things like Reddit and say,
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hey, Reddit, I'm doing this.
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Like I could easily go to Reddit and say,
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hey, Reddit, I got this website up.
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Here's a sample video,
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whatever the fuck people do on there.
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But yeah, you're right, I haven't done that.
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And part of it might be because I know also,
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if I get suckered in for one second into the negativity,
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I'm gonna become an online warrior,
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and I don't wanna be that person.
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So yeah, you're probably right.
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So you're self aware about that.
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I mean, one of the things I've early on decided
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is like, I'm just gonna be,
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I've always really enjoyed being positive.
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So I'm going to make sure I stay that way.
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And when there's negativity, it's like,
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I'm not just ignoring it.
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I'm literally just returning it with positivity.
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I probably am the same way as you,
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most people are with egos.
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You wanna become the warrior against the negativity.
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And like many wars, there's no winning.
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There's no winning that war.
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Especially online.
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Especially on the internet.
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And so in that sense, that's been a journey
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to try to face the fire of the negativity.
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And it's not actually that bad.
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It sounds like very dramatic.
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There's not many people that are negative,
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but it's like when you put advertisements,
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so you put your face on an instructional
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or something like that.
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It just, there's an aspect to it
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which you're being a salesman,
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you're being a gimmicky thing.
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It just feels wrong.
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And people will point out, look,
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that guy is a fraud, like it's fake.
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Look, he's trying,
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but those people are going to be out there.
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And if you're like trying to do your best,
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trying to be authentic and not trying to like
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be a snake oil salesman
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and being like the shady kind of salesman,
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I think they keep you honest.
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They keep you honestly being the most authentic self.
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And podcasting is like the best medium
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because you're being real.
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Those one hour plus that you put out there,
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that's like real John.
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like people fall in love with that.
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And that's the beautiful aspect of podcasting
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long form doesn't give any possibility
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for you not to be authentic.
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And that's why it's a magical medium.
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The tough thing is you're not,
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popularity takes time, not popularity.
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And so like you shouldn't be doing it for that reason.
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it's not the thing that really drives me.
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Is there three books,
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technical fiction philosophical that had an impact on you?
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Like, is there books that you kind of return to
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that you enjoy and that you find profound in some way?
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I would say like probably the thing I read
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is in one of Emerson's essays that I read
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at a point in my life where I needed that type of thing.
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And I read self reliance and,
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he's got a ton of good essays,
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but I thought self reliance was probably
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the most impactful to me.
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I've read later in life,
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like a handful of existential authors
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and they're all great,
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but at the time a lot of it has to do with timing.
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And when I read self reliance
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and it was about the individual that was really good
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and made it was impactful.
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There's also a book called Jonathan Livingston Seagull
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by Richard Bach, I think.
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And it's kind of along the same lines.
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It's about this seagull who wants to break conformity
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and learn to fly and do all these other great things.
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And so it's a very short read.
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So if people are interested in that, that's good.
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The book, which I was lucky enough to read
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before the movie ever even came out,
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which is just a pleasure of mine was American Psycho.
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Just from a writing standpoint,
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I found that the writing was awesome.
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Brett Easton Ellis is the author of that
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and several other books
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who have like intertwining characters.
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He's a New England prep school guy.
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And so a lot of like the stories
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and a lot of the visuals rang true for me
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and anyone who can write four pages of prose
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on like a Huey Lewis album, I mean, kudos to you.
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And I also would say no one will do this,
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but I would at some point read as much
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of one of the big three religious texts as possible.
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It really gives you perspective.
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There are so many overlapping stories of religious texts.
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And then the way that they're written
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gives you a unique perspective
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on different people throughout the world.
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And if you're a Roman Catholic,
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maybe don't read the Bible, read one of the other texts.
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And that would be an interesting take, but.
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I'm embarrassed to say that, first of all,
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I've never read the Bible, which is embarrassing to say.
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It's like I read a bunch of stuff about the Bible
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and not the Bible itself.
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And the same, not equating them,
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but I haven't read Marx directly.
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I haven't read Mein Kampf by Hitler directly.
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And it feels like sometimes,
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cause you think like it's better to read stuff
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about the books, but ultimately you want,
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because like the analysis will be better
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in texts that followed it,
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but there's value to actually reading like the actual words.
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Yeah, there's this power in the words
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that there's a reason why like the Bible
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is one of the most impactful books ever.
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You know, it's in those words
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and it's a value to return to those words.
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The communist manifesto is truly frightening
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if you read it in like modern context.
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It's worth reading.
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It's worth reading.
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And so is Mein Kampf, not obviously,
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well, it's not obvious, but it is not very well written,
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but all the ideas that led to the evil that is Hitler
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are all in there, which is fascinating to think about
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because probably some of the world leaders at the time
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should have probably read the books.
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He outlined everything he's gonna do.
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Offline, you mentioned an Emerson quote that I really like.
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So let's try to end on this powerful quote.
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It's easy in the world to live after the world's opinion.
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It's easy in solitude to live after your own.
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The great man is who in the midst of the world
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keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
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What does this quote mean to you?
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It kind of reinforces the idea
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that you're here to live your life
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and that even when people are trying to
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influence you or comment on the decisions
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that you make for your life,
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you should have the strength to stick by living your life
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the way you want to live it,
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that there's one immutable truth for you
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and it doesn't apply to everyone.
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And so people who frown upon
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or judge the way that you live
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because it's not, air quotes, conventional,
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their opinion should not be something
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that impacts the choices that you make.
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You're in a relationship now.
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Yes. Is that deeply meaningful?
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Or are you ultimately still alone?
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Are you still just a man in the cold
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of the life that is suffering?
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No, I'm a man who's warm, nestled in a bosom.
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I don't think there's a better way to end, John.
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You're a friend, you're my coach.
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I'm sure we'll talk many more times in the future.
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Thanks for wasting all your time with me today.
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Thanks Lex, I had an awesome time.
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Hope to be back soon.
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Thank you for listening and hope to see you next time.